What am I doing wrong? I've spent the best part of the last 4 years trying to stop my two DDs (4 and 2) from whining and have to conclude I've messed it all up, as they never stop, it sometimes feels like, from dawn to dusk, and I feel like tearing my hair out ...
I think I've been pretty scrupulously consistent in my approach ? at the first hint of a whine, I say "Can you say that again normally", "Please use your words/talk to me in a normal/happy voice", etc, things like that, and if they carry on whining I immediately drop ALL attention. No talking, no eye contact, until they stop. And when they (eventually) stop, I immediately say something like "Great! You've stopped crying/screaming/whining, now let's ....". But DD1 quite often sees that as an opportunity to restart, which I just don't understand! I dropped the attention when she whined, I paid her attention again when she stopped, so WHAAAAY on earth is she starting again?!?!
I thought I was doing the right thing. But the wailing and screeching from the two of them never ends and I find it so depressing. It's not particularly a sibling rivalry thing, they just screech individually . I hate labelling them, but there's no getting away from it ? they are a pair of whiny kids.
Any tips? Thanks sooo much.