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Shocked at other peoples' rude comments!!!

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littlemisslozza · 20/08/2009 14:11

Just want to let off steam.....
When expecting DC2 (gender unknown throughout pregnancy), was asked in the supermarket by someone I know if we knew if the baby was a boy or a girl. We already have a DS (almost 2). I said 'no, we are having a surprise'. Person said 'what will you do if it's a boy?!!' (Send him back????!)
I was so taken aback I just said we'd be happy with either gender, which was the truth.

Neighbour asked the other day if baby had arrived yet, upon the news that yes, it had, and was another DS, she said 'oh dear'.

Why are some people so tactless and miserable?! Some people aren't fortunate enough to have children, nevermind the gorgeous healthy little boys I have.

Feel better now!

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BumptiousandBustly · 21/08/2009 12:44

I have a DS and am pregnant again, and am living in expectation of this. Its horrible, whatever you have is lovely, its a BABY - what could be better!

crumblequeen · 21/08/2009 12:46

I have an 18 month DS and would be the most delighted person in the world with another boy. I just love life with DS. I would be much ruder if someone asked me the same question

LadyGlencoraPalliser · 21/08/2009 12:48

I have three girls and I've heard it all. The third time was the worst, everybody seemed to assume we were only having a third because we were 'trying for a boy' when the truth was that we actually couldn't care less which it was. MY PIL were particularly appalling to the point where I was actually relieved not to have a son, because I could see that they would be outrageously favoured over the granddaughters. Which is in fact now happening with SIL's youngest child, the only grandson, otherwise known to our friends as 'the little lord Jesus'.

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slummymummy36 · 21/08/2009 13:59

Massive congratulations to you!

I hate people who speak like this! Why is it that people assume having a boy and a girl is the utopia of a perfect family? LOL

I have 2 daughters, now 10 and 8. I still get very upset at the comments I had from a neighbour when I returned home from the hospital. The convo went something like.....

Neighbour:"yoohoo, oh dear. My heart sank for you when I saw the pink balloon. Another girl is it?"

Me: a little taken back "er yes, a girl"

Neighbour: " Never mind, your young enough to try again for a boy. Hope you're not too dissapointed"

FFS!! Silly F***G cow!!!

I actually adore having 2 daughters only 2 years apart in age. I love the avantage of shared toys, haning own clothes etc. I cannot imagine life any other way. I was delighted from the moment my 2nd daughter arrived. This is not to say that I think having 2 daughters is any better than having a son and a daughter, 2 sons, 2 sons and 10 daughters or any other combination! I am just thankful I was blessed with 2 beautiful children.

Some people really need to think before they speak because that convo still hurts and angers me 8 years on!

MarshaBrady · 21/08/2009 14:04

I have one boy with another baby due in December and yes there are loads of comments on how it will be a girl, or I want a girl.

I find it hard to deal with, because I will be happy either way, don't know yet.

I feel better that comments occur whichever x gender it is, I was starting to worry society hated boys or something.

lol at 'the little lord Jesus'

CarGirl · 21/08/2009 14:08

I've got 4 girls so you can imagine the comments! It was only when I was about to have my 4th I'd come to terms with the fact that if it were boy I'd be happy about it up until then I very very much only wanted girls.

People are rude and thoughtless. I am truly grateful to have the healthy children I have.

Pinkjenny · 21/08/2009 14:13

I have a dd and am expecting a ds. I have already had:

Oh, I really can't picture you with a boy

That's great, assuming you wanted a boy

Will you try for another, so dd has a sister?

People are strange.

ABitBatty · 21/08/2009 14:14

I have 3 boys and at DS3 scan the sonographer said 'I'm afraid it's another boy'

weegiemum · 21/08/2009 14:25

When pg with dc3 (dd2), I already had one of each.

Got loads of comments along the lines of "why did you want another one when you already have one of each"

Not helpful. Especially as it wasn't planned and I was ill.

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littlemisslozza · 21/08/2009 15:04

'the little lord Jesus!!!!' Good one...

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becktay · 21/08/2009 19:52

after 20 week scan and finding out it was another boy my own mum said, 'ohhhh, perhaps your sister will come up with the goods next time'.
if it wasn't my own mother who i know actually adores both my sons and nephew really

becktay · 21/08/2009 19:53

she just can't wait to indulge in pink clothes

bethdivine · 21/08/2009 20:25

When I duly produced DD 2.2 yrs after having DS, my mum said oh well done, you've got one of each, you can stop now, you don't need to go through that again. (As the 2nd girl, I was not what she had hoped for, so she did have to go through a 3rd pg to get the desired boy).
I was also amazed at the number of congratulation cards we received with the message "you clever girl, you have one of each"!!!

PacificDogwood · 21/08/2009 21:36

Found out today I am expecting DS4 - roll on the comments !!
We are delighted, BTW

IwishIhadtimetoreadnewspapers · 21/08/2009 21:43

I have 2 ds's already and when we tell people that we'd like to have a 3rd they assume it's because we want a dd. Actually (if I'm honest) I think I'd prefer another boy!

simplesusan · 21/08/2009 21:52

Some people are just rude.
Think constant images of all happy families only ever consisting of Mum, Dad, one boy and one girl are partially to blame.

inkdrops · 21/08/2009 22:25

My sil bought pink clothes when i was pg with ds2. Upon hearing the news I was expecting ds 2 she said "oh dear, I will have to take them (clothes)back now or wait for bil to have a girl!!"

Don't think she meant anything nasty by it, but was surprised she'd actually BOUGHT clothes in anticipation!

pootle09 · 22/08/2009 11:35

People are just making conversation, but unfortunately doing so without putting their brain into gear first.

I have one DS and am pregant again. We don't know the gender but when people say 'What do you want?' and I say 'I absolutely don't mind' they nearly always say 'Oh but it'd be nice if was a girl though wouldn't it?' and do that wrinkly up nose thing as if they're in on my 'secret' wish.

No, I absolutely don't care either way - I'd like another child.

Yes, being pregnant seems to bring out the thoughtless, inane and sometimes just plain rude in people - like the woman who told me I'd 'put all the kilos on my face'. Gee, thanks. It's not as if I don't have mirrors in my house love, I'm well aware of the situation!

pootle09 · 22/08/2009 11:36

And at 'little lord Jesus'!

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