DS2 admitted to hospital tonight. I've left him there overnight with DH. Feeling pangs of guilt.

[Platesmasher]

Thanks Riven. Sorry you've had to become a bit of a hospital admission expert and well done with the camping.

I'll post back later.

I'm going to be late now. Didn't know you lot were all on here this early!?

How's he doing ?

Well he's still hobbling, but he's home.
Diagnosed with an 'irritable hip' which is painful enough but have ruled out all the real nasties.

Had an unfortunate incident where I overheard a mouthy radiographer call me a 'stupid woman' for not being able to hold him legs apart for long enough for the xray. He was screaming and frightened and it was hurting him.

I confronted her through tears. She apologised. I'm still upset.

Having a sick child under investigation is hard enough without being criticised by some insensitive woman. I spoke to her manager who said I was well within my rights to make a formal complaint and that she had been out of order.

Bottom line is that he's ok though.

• who cares if that's MN protocol or not?

Glad he's home and that the diagnosis was the milder of the two options. What a horrible thing to overhear, though - well done for confronting her. She will definitely think twice about doing such a thing in future.

So what happens with DS2 now?

The cheeky cow - how dare she ? Clearly has no dc's of her own by the sound of it

Glad he's home and doing ok. Poor little tyke

Well, what happens with DS2 now, is that he's wandering around the house after bedtime being cute but slightly annoying. In all the commotion with the radiographer, and me explaining to DH back on the ward what had happened DS2 had curled up on the sofa and gone to sleep. He had too long a nap and now he's wide awake and I haven't the energy to send him to bed. Am hoping he'll just go there himself

They said to give him calpol for now. He's refusing it. Otherwise it should settle within a week or two, and if he becomes unwell to take him back in.

I told the stupid old bag that it was not ok to talk about me like that, that i heard every word, that it was a ridiculous way to treat the parent of a sick child who is obviously worried, and asked her which one us she thought was stupid now?

She said her.

I then asked her to get her manager.

He arrived. He was mortified and apologised and said I should make a written complaint.

The nurse on the ward gave me the paperwork to make a complaint.

Something tells me they want me to make a complaint against her.

I just wish i could hold back the tears in these situations. I say the right stuff, i challenge people on the spot when they upset me, but i think the tears make me look like an emotional wreck and kind of weaken my case.

But what can you do if you're upset?

Can't help but feel that I fucked up the xray and should have known better. I'm tired and emotional tonight. That woman got the shitty end of my stick though and she asked for it.

Its more than understandable that you were upset - I don't think it weakens your case at all. It sounds like she was well and truly told

I reckon wine, chocs, lots of hugs from your boys and an early night should see you right x

I want cheesecake.

Have you named that baby yet?

Cheesecake could work (as a treat for you, not as a baby name obviously !).

Not named yet - but definitely need a boy's name. Still plenty of time though

How did your move go ? I was on hols in Devon a few weeks ago and DH wanted me to ask your dh about cycle routes The man is obsessed

oh you should have asked. DH might finally understand the lure of mumsnet if that happened.

I'm getting a road bike. Have ordered it, just need the NHS to approve me for the cyclescheme.
If you can't beat them....

There are lots of good cycling names. My favourite name is Cadel.

The move went well. No problems at all and house sale went smoothly too. Couldn't have been smoother.

Glad it all went well. Cadel is a cool name but he's seems a really unlikable bloke. DH is pushing for Cavendish as a middle name

Ivan
Franko
Roman
Vladimir?

Ah now, Bradley...that's a great name.

Bradley Cavendish ....

I kind of like it.

Cheesecake has arrived. Impressive huh?
I'm signing off now.
Thanks for the support all.

Enjoy

Sorry to hear about DS - just keep an eye - it took 3 weeks to diagnose DDs septic arthrtitis. I would go back in 4 days max. A 2 year old does not limp without good reason. An irritable hip is NOT a diagnosis - it doesn't mean anything. They said to keep giving calpol which masked the mild fever she started to run and it wasn't until I insisted on seeing a paediatric orthopaedic surgeon that we got on track. He diagnosed it on the spot and she was in surgery that night. No bloods or x-rays picked it up. It's dangerous as it can stop the bone from growing if it damages the growth plate. Insist on seeing the right person. If it hurts for the hip to be moved by him or anyone else, then that's pretty serious.

A paediatrician or an orthopaedic is NOT the right person - it absolutely MUST be a paediatric orthopaedic consultant.

That's a terrible attitude for a radiographer to have, I'm a radiography student and I have never heard of a parent or carer having this said about them.
I'd complain, it's not your fault she couldn't get the film they needed.

How is he?

He's still limping a little but it looks to be getting less obvious. He seems well.
The blood test showed high neutrophils indicating he's fighting a virus, and low leukocytes so no bacterial infection.
(i think that's right)

I am not so upset about the radiographer now, as am rested after a weekend away and not feeling so emotional. I will still make a formal complaint though. But it will be a calm factual one.

Hi, sorry, I've been away for a few days. Glad to hear DS2 is gradually improving - has he now submitted to calpol?

"the tears make me look like an emotional wreck and kind of weaken my case" - Are you mad? If I discovered that I'd been such a horrible old cow that I'd made a grown woman cry, and not only that but a grown woman who was deeply worried about the health of her two-year-old, I'd be mortified beyond belief. I seriously doubt that you have weakened your case by letting her see the full impact of her fuckwittery.