I'm finding this quite upsetting.

[PrettyCandles]

Started toilet-training 2y8m ds2 on Saturday, and he's pretty much done now.

This afternoon 6yo dd wet herself - again. I know she's got a problem and is on long-term medication for it, but nonetheless I find it upsetting that my youngest child can do something that his older sibling cannot. Not even a skill, but a basic developmental milestone. And in my frustration that she had wet herself (and the sofa) I had to bite my tongue not to say "Your baby brother can do this - why bloody why can't you?!"

It's unfair on her. Both my frustration and the fact the ds2 has overtaken her.

I just feel so .

But you didn't say anything PrettyCandles, so be kind to yourself. Toilet training is stressful, and of course, it would be logical to think what you did. I don't know the nature of your dd's problem, but it is common to have accidents with older kids who have no difficulties ie through excitement or laziness... . Chin up!

Thanks SBS.

It's not so much what I didn't say and accident that bother me, more that ds2 has overtaken her on such a fundamental thing.

I hope she doesn't feel this way too.