i need help getting out of the house in the morning

[booyhoo]

ds2 was born 7 weeks ago and i am still struggling to get out of the house before lunchtime most days.

i took them to funky monkeys last monday. we got there about quarter past 11. thats with us getting up at 7 and i got no washing out, cleaning done or even dishes washed. i just had to get out of the house. so basically all i had achieved by 11 am was getting us all dressed and fed. thats four hours.

how do i get organised so that we can go to m&t groups at half 9 and 10 oclock? i find it takes me so long to actually be ready to leave the house that i end up staying in and its really getting to me now. i need to get out and talk to people and not just do the weekly shop at 4pm.

help please!!

wel today i got up at 7 and the boys were stil asleep, they both woke while i was in shower but ds1 but cartoons on for himself in my room and i just let ds2 cry on and off for the few minutes it took me to finish showering.

ds1 helped himself to breakfast, as everything is within his reach, while i got dressed and dressed ds2. not ideal but im working on syncronizing both our breakfasts so it will come with practise i hope!

i then dressed ds1 and was able to eat my breakfast and feed ds2 at about half 8. i got the dishes washed and the washing out and was able to get to bfing support group, and my neighbour offered to keep ds1. so i got some erands done aswell. i feel so much better that i havent wasted another day sitting in. i got the surestart flier and have noted down what is on certain days so i will have a definite timescale to stick to if i do want to go out on a certain day.

theres nothing on on thursdays and only ocasional things on tuesdays so i will have a few days a week where i can take it a bit easier and try to tackle the house.

thank you all for advice, it helps just to have someone spell out what you know you should do.

well done boo. It gets easier from here on in.

well done you for making changes so quickly.ds2 is v young still. it will improve. the only things i would echo are- ds2 can definitely cry a little whilst you finish whatever job you are attending to- wont harm him for short periods. i used to feed dd2, eat my own breakfast and give dd1 her breakfast at the same time (involved me physically feeding her as she was v v lazy and rubbish about eating). it is possible to multi task and it will get better! your idea of certain days to get out of door and certain days to not is a good one- though assume your ds1 starting school in sept you'll be in a diff routine by then....

sorry if someone already said but shower the nigt before?

ds1 eat brekkie in pushch or car, banana and toast?

yes he will be at preschool in sept which will mean being ready to leave at 9.10 am so a bit of a shift, actually, i should maybe start aiming to be ready for that time now and then it wont be so much of a change when we need to do it.

im going to try showering tonight and see if it makes a difference to morrow morn. im sure it will.

i dont like feeding ds on the run, i have done in the past on occasion and it always feels like im rushing him, and tbh theres no real need to feed him on the go, there is plenty of time for him to eat as it doesnt take up much of my time. i can still do things while he eats.