Dd(3), ds(1) and I are snuggling in bed this morning. Ds is feeding, but he's just tucked in my armpit helping himself and not really getting any attention. Dd is snuggled in the crook of my other arm and we are having a lovely chat about the princess party she is going to later today. We are giggling and whispering and wondering about popping to Lulu to buy her a special princess dress, and speculating on whether there might be cake and pass the parcel at the party. It is ALL about her. Then...
She tweaks my nipple.
Me: Ow dd. Don't do that. It hurts.
Me: No, seriously dd. That hurts mummy. Please don't.
Me: Dd. I mean it. Stop it. Shall we have a story? Why don't you choose a book and I'll...
Me: Dd we are kind and gentle to each other. We do not pinch. Mummy has asked you to stop.
Me: OW OW OW. DD THAT'S IT. STOPPIT. GET OFF .
Ffs. Why? What was so terrible about having a lovely cuddle and chat that she had to keep poking until I get cross?
I HATE getting cross and will generally do anything to avoid raising my voice. I prefer consequences to punishments. I know she is a bit unsettled at the moment (thought I'm not sure why) and seems to be being extra 'naughty' so I'm doing lots of attention and one-to-one stuff.
This is so typical of us at the moment. Why does she deliberately go out of her way to spoil it when she is having a nice time and lots of attention?
She can't seem to help herself.
We were playing stamps. Last time she played stamps she smeared everything with ink (I mean EVERYTHING). I didn't get cross, because it was just a different way of playing, but I did explain that ink goes on paper, not curtains and sofas and clothes. I involved her in tidying up the carnage mess. So, when we got them out again I reminded her that we were going to play with the stamps on the paper. It was like her whole mission was to get me to look the other way so she could smear the ink on her dress. She wants me to get cross. Why?