I'm not naive, my ds age 6 can be a little monkey. We've had "listening to mummy" issues in the past, but his behaviour has improved massively over the years and most of the time he's now a lovely co-operative boy.
He plays quite a bit with the son of a friend of mine, who is also in his class at schoool. I will try to put this diplomatically, but basically this boy rules the roost at home, his parents think he is a little angel and can't see that he ever does anything wrong. The two boys fight a lot at the moment - it's partly just their personalities clash and interests differ. But more and more I feel that my friend thinks that my ds is responsible for all the situations we have to deal with when the boys are together.
Today they were swimming in an outdoor pool with other kids from their class. I was watching them but had asked my friend to keep an eye while I took dd to the toilet. When I came back my friend told me I need to speak to ds as he was pushing her ds under the water. I made ds get out and asked him what happened - he said the other boy pushed him under about 5 times and when he wouldn't stop after ds asked him, he did it back to him. I explained to him that it's really dangerous to do that (he knows that, we've talked about it before and I feel sure he wouldn't normally do that) and he should have told me or another mum. My friend though was cuddling her ds and telling him my ds should not push him under the water and she would not let him do it again etc etc. After a lot of talking her ds admitted he had done it first, but she didn't say much about it to him then, or apologise to my ds.
There have been lots of examples like this, and I would really like some advice on how to handle these situations. I don't want to fall out with her but really don't feel like spending time with her much right now which is a shame as the only problem is how I feel she treats my ds.