What would you say to this request?

[dilemma456]

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i wouldnt feel very happy about it tbh, am also suprised that the gf would let her stay with sombody she has never met.

I think it's a cheek but I also think it's wrong to get a child to stay overnight with someone they don't know - from the child's point of view.

If her dad can't have her that weekend then they need to rearrange the weekend away imo.

No i wouldn't.

For many reason including the fact the asked you on an answering machine!

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I'd do it but I'd want to do a trial run play date and a trial sleep over first before the parents disappear!

No, I would have misgivings...she is a NEW girlfriend, you say, so how do we know her daughter and his sons actually even get on? there will be some dodgy dynamics going on there at this stage - and what do they hope to achieve by lumping their kids together without them, some people are totally irresponsible.

Say no IMO.

I would say no, as the child wouldn't know me and I wouldn't know her.

Start as you mean to go on. If you say yes this time the requests may become regular, so they have have child-free breaks.

I'm that the girls mother is happy for her dd to stay with someone she doesn't know while she goes on a dirty weekend with her new man.
You could be anyone for all she knows!!

"You could be anyone for all she knows!" Yes, an "anyone" with whom her bf is happy to leave his children.

I would chat with the single-dad friend and voice your concerns.

I would, meet them first, make sure that the child seems to operate within rules that you are happy with (ie the mum is not a "let her do anything" type if you are not like that too) and make sure the child is happy with the idea. Also I would ask for the dads number as an emergency contact for the weekend incase something happens or she is upset etc. I would also make it clear this is a one off!

But then I am a hopeless romantic at heart and would do anything to see my single parent friend matched up and happy

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Does the girl know the boys already?

As others have said, I would have her over before the sleep over, and check how she gets on with you and the boys.

Oh, I am sold! What a crappy back story for him! Gah - I am off before I start a rant about parents who leave their dc !

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It is a bit cheeky, but i'm sure you will make the right decision. Just discuss it further? x

It sounds like your friend has spoken highly of you, can trust you with his boys etc. He has probably reassured his gf that her dd will be fine with you. As all the children know each other I think it will be fine. I would make sure you don't become their regular babysitter though!

Will they mind your children for you one weekend?? Bring it up while they're still grateful.