OMG, what an awful 24 hrs. Ex-mil taken to hosp Monday with suspected food poisoning, had exploratory surgery yesterday and there's nothing they can do. Had very emotional night with DDs last night - lots of tears all round and very little sleep, they've never gone through the death of a close relative and they love their grandma so much.
They're both going through the 'wish had gone to see her more often' phase at the moment and I'm trying to explain that grandmas don't expect them to be there all the time, but I feel really helpless. They've gone to the hospital to say their goodbyes - don't know if that's the right thing for them to do, but I feel they're old enough to decide for themselves.
I also have a 4yr old who is totally baffled at the moment, can't understand why everyone upset. Oh, and a DP who is baffled as to why I'm upset [is that just a man thing ] I was close to MIL when I was married and feel very upset too, but trying to hold it together for everyone. Just don't know what to do or say - have only ever known 2 people die myself.
Anyone else been through this - how did you get through it and what do you say that I haven't already said.