Younger Moms???!!!

[Calmriver]

I am 23, and was told by some b***d in the lift the other day that I am too young to be a mom!( he didn't know how old I was, and I do look young)
He just came out and said' you are NOT old enough to be a mother! I was shocked!

I don't drink,smoke and have never been away from dd(8 months) for longer than an hour!!!

How dare he!

All these messages just make me cringe!
In the 'old days' it was the 'thing to do' to have kids young, but people nowdays just think anyone under 40 could not possibly be responsible for a child!
I would LOVE to broadcast this on TV!!!!Teach them all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm 21 and I went into a shop with dd to buy some fags a few months ago (before I gave up ) and got asked for ID! Can't believe they thought I was under 16. The lady said well we get alot of young mothers on this estate, I had to ask!!

I'm 21. I had dd at 20 and nobody thinks she's mine. Especially when I'm with my own mother. They think she's hers. One lady said to my mum one day at the library "Isn't it nice to have some help" Looking at me! I just felt like a kid. I do look young. Sometimes when I'm pushing baby around, i think people are looking at me thinking I'm a child with a child.

I'm 26 had dd1 when i was 19 & dd2 when i was 23,went to register dd2 with dh (dp at the time)he carried the baby in in the car seat & the lady registering the baby said to dh are you the dad.I was raving as we wasn't married so he had to come with me to register her.Of all people she should keep her thoughts to herself.

what a snotty old bugger. Should just look at people like that and say "DUUURRRR - surely the fact that I've actually given birth means that I'm old enough to be a mum ... and besides my first is due to give birth in two months then I'll be a grandma" - usually shuts 'em up.

I had one at 17, one at 21 and one at 25. Plus became a grandma at 39 - so tell 'em to sod off.

How rude! The fact is being young does NOT make you any less of a good mother.. so I'd just tell them to stick it where the sun doesn't shine next time..

BTW I'm 19 (20 next month) and I have an 8 week old little girl.. and if someone said that to me I'd just say 'and you look too young to have that many wrinkles..'

Sarah + Ashli x

Well, I had 1 at 20, 1 at 23 and 1 at 28 and get asked all the time if im a first time mum with no. 3. (especially when my eldest is nearly the same size as me). Got asked the other day if I was 19 which I think made my year!

one thing that really bugs me is when ive been at the birth of my grandkids the doctors and nurses still speak to me. ever though its my daughter who is having the baby, as if coz she younger she cant hear/or understand

sorry I find this entire thread really amusing

because none of you realise you CAN'T WIN .. ever

if you have your children later then you get comments, if you have them earlier you get comments - its different types true but the same thing

its just that other people feel they have the right to talk to you about your life and use stereotypes

people are mainly trying to be nice and supportive

it is supposed to be acompliment to 'look young' I am sure most of them didn't realise how annoying they were being

unlike the partner of a friend at our wedding (I was 32 and not pregnant) who said 'I suppose your biological clock is ticking' - oo nice on my wedding day

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I agree, it IS a great thing to look young, but it's the fact that people speak down to you, as though you couldn't possibly be old enough or responsible enough to have a child!!!!!After all, you look like you are in your teens????what could you possibly KNOW?????

hello young mummies...can i join in the fun??

i'm 24, was 23 when ds was born (he's 15 wks today ), but most people think i'm a teenager. my mum had me at 20 & i LOVED having a young mum (& still do!)
plus, if we look young now girls, how jammy will we be to be 35-looking 25
xxx

I am 24 and no one has ever told me I am too young to be a mum.

Maybe thats because I look like a haggard old witch

Roosmom, very good point, and I remind myself of it all the time! The lines don't hide themselves though unfortunately. I have a younger face, I think you can tell the lines if you look cloder!LOL :0

Hey, what happened to my smiley face? :0

(grin)

at least if women do give birth at a young age or unmarried we all don't get shunted off into some home and locked up as though we are mad!!!! My mum said she had 2 friends who had that done to them in the 1950s.

I was 20 when I had DS1 and he didn't thrive - was diagnosed with cystic fibrosis at five and a half weeks - but during those five weeks I had real trouble getting anyone professional to believe that I was feeding him right! They thought I was too immature to mix bottles properly! (Gave up bf after a week because assumed it was my milk that was making him lose weight instead of gain and nobody told me different.)

The last straw came when I sat crying in my GPs surgery clutching a wad of tear-stained homemade charts showing how much he had taken and how often during the last week .. and how much of it he was poo-ing back out! And listening to my GP on the phone to the hospital trying to convince a paediatrican that I was feeding my baby.. and that I was both young and sensible!!

Grrr! (13 years later and with a 4 year old DS with many special needs, I am soooo assertive with medical bods now that I cringe to think how I just took that treatment when DS1 was a newborn!)

That is just shocking sleepyjess at how judgemental and plain narrow-minded people just are!