Totall;y lost it with ds1 (3.11) today now i hate myself

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been having behavioural problems with ds1 incl. violence towards ds2 (2.3), also been referred for query Aspergers. We don't have a violent, physical or shouty family but today I really screamed at him because ds1 shut ds2's fingers in the door for entertainment / attention because I dared to sit on the loo! We have made it up but please tell me other mum's have done this so I don't feel so evil.

It would be a rare mum indeed that has never shouted at her DCs.

Have a glass of wine and a choccie bar and relax.

If it makes you feel better (and me worse) I have shouted at my DD1 who is an absolute angel for a lot less when stressed/rushed/pms etc. I feel absolutely shite afterwards too.

Sounds like a perfectly normal reaction to sibling aggression. Everyone shouts at their kids from time to time and beats themself up about it afterwards. Have an early night, so you are in a better frame of mind to deal with challenging behaviour tomorrow (... which is what I should be doing!)

I had never shouted in my entire life - until I had DS (also query Aspergers)!

Rest assured, you are not evil. I feel for you!

Same her as Damon

This morning I was banshee woman to my DD (3.6), who's only crime was to come through to our bedroom earlier than I wanted her to (after I had been up feeding DS).

Felt v guilty but we made up, I apologised and we've had a nice day.

It's life with kids really I think (still feel guilty though).

Done the same today with DC 8 and 6
Felt crap for the rest of the day

But they had been fighting all morning
DD screaming and shouting as loud as possible for nothing
I lost it with them both

I could off in hindsight handled it alot better

Oh yes I agree that in hindsight it could ALWAYS be handled a lot better. I am really shocked at myself for handling super dramatic situations incredibly well at times and losing it badly and acting like the tantrumy/screaming toddler I am trying to educate for absolutely nothing. pathetic.

Please dont feel bad, we have all lost it before, blimely there is only so much one can take sometimes, no matter how much we love our kids.

You've all made me feel loads better. Had wine and dolly mixtures which has def helped my mood. Tomorrow I'm going to take a much needed break from kids then sunday I will spoil ds1 rotten with my attention. Although i'm sure he will still be telling nanny and grandad that mummy shouted at him!

I broke a toy once by slamming the door - dd was devastated, obviously, and I felt ritten. She went to tell my mum and dh ... imagine my state!

rOtten

I've lost it with ds planty of times and yelled or slammed doors.
I am always appalled by myself afterwards, but sometiems, you have just been pushed and pushed.
We have all done it.
You've made up now, so try to forgive yourself and let it go.
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