are all 19 month olds evil??

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Being a first time mum of my DS 10 months and someone who has not spent a lot of time with small children, I have a question and I am dreading the answers...but are all toddlers around the age of 19/20 months evil???
My friends DS is horrible, he cries and moans most of the time, he throws toys, kicks, pushes, never laughs and rarely smiles.
My DS is at a lovely stage...no tantrums, not clingy and very smiley and happy....but is this just a "stage" and it all goes horribly wrong when they start to push boundries? Or is my friends DS just an unhappy boy?

Please please let it be the latter as I am dreading that if thats the case.

Thanks xxx

I think evil is a bit strong a word really and hope that you aren't my friend if that's what you think.

they are just toddlers.

it'll go wrong for you as well and i hope you think back to calling your friend's DS evil and be humbled.

not a very nice op.

well my dd2 is 20 months and im loving this age tbh. She is learning loads of new words, makes me laugh, loves dancing, his a wicked sense of humor and can do so much.

However, she hates sharing and says no alot

my dd is 18months and lovely - loads of fun.

There are children in nursery who seem less friendly/happy but I guess this is just personality.

Hope yr ds stays sweet

My children are perfect.

So no need to worry

My DS 19 months Kicks, shouts, slaps me in the face, moans, wont eat, wont drink, wont dress, wont have nappy changed, is apparently an angel at CM BUT...is starting to talk and develop such a funny, cheeky little character that it balances out the little monster side of him. I think nature has done this on purpose so that we are able to overlook this headstrong and frustrating stage . I laugh at (and with him)regularly evry day at his funny little antics.

Evil is not a good word to apply to a child. Funnly enough I was telling the father of a 4mo the other day that the whole terrible two thing was bollocks.

My ds is 20mo and is just gorgeous. Funny, smiley, a whirlwind of energy, progressing in speech and, like Lisad123's also a little mover on the dancefloor!

Yes he has the odd paddy when he doesn't get his own way on something but is passes pretty quickly.

Fret not.

No they are not all evil but I do remember when DS was a baby and I was a bit overprotective, being terrified of some older children and how rough they could be.

Also children are very different from each other - some can be more aggressive and whiny, some are more sulky or reserved, some are generally cheery and chatty. On top of that they have phases so my actually quite good-natured DS has had some appalling phases of non-stop screaming and stropping. You get used to all this. Try not to see another child as evil - it is natural that they go through stages and if and when your DS acts like this, you will really appreciate it when other parents understand and sympathise, instead of labelling your child.

Is it just me or am I the only one who thinks OP was just using 'evil' as a tongue in cheek expression? Maybe OP doesnt quite deserve being (albeit gently) told off?

I think you're right puppie - I have used evil myself about other people's children in a non-serious way - but I think the more I see of them, and the more experience I have with DS (and also the more I learn on MN) the less judgmental I get, so I now try not to think that way.

It is not funny if you are the parent and your child is being a nightmare. I am so grateful for other mothers who know how that feels and we can support each other.

Evil is a pretty strong word, though am sure (hoping) that the OP didnt mean it in this way.
Toddlers are stroppy but its mostly due to frustration at being unable to talk or make themselves understood.

Perhaps you need to chill out a bit OP about other peoples DCs....

Terrible is the word, and as its only called terrible 2s it is something they go through and get over.

i remember when my dd1 was age between 15 - 18 months old and that was VERY hard work as loads of tantrums.... She is 4 now and have a tantrum now and again.