Help - Sharing Room - is this OK?

[chocaholic73]

My DH and 12 year old DD have to go on a trip without me overnight soon and will need to stay in a hotel. Is it acceptable for them to share a twin bedded room, using the ensuite to get changed in, or not? Not sure if I am being over cautious for thinking it might not be or is it a big no-no?

of course it is ok

why wouldn't it be ?

It's fine - unless you think one of them is uncomfortable about it.

why on earth wouldnt it be? what do you mean over cautious? I mean... do you have any actual reason to worry about that?

yes good point Reality, I can see a step-father/DD could be awkward but then you would know that wouldnt you.

I still don't think it is awkward if you normally live as a family

if your dh and dd normally live aprt, then might be an unusual situation but still fine if both ok with it

*apart

Yes, completely acceptable.

sorry - didn't make myself clear - DH is DDs father and yes we all live together. I don't have any doubts myself and I don't think either of them would feel uncomfortable about it. It was just me worrying that it might be deemed unsuitable by some people - but it appears I was wrong, and I am happy to be so. I said to DH I would ask on here and get an opinion, so thanks all.

does that mean fucked up beyond all reason? I was just trying to work it out!

Well if a Mother had genuine concerns like this she really shouldnt be married to the man... I mean if I actually thought (which I never would) that my DH was the type of man I had to worry for young girls about then I wouldnt be married to him... That was a terrible sentence to write it probably made no sense!

...although Reality ...I dont understand your post ..I dont think anything about my husband and daughter ..I am just trying to make things straightforward at what is a stressful time for all of us!!! and I have no idea what fubar means.

I really don't see why you would even question this.

unsuitable by some people with a very filthy mind.....

choc, do not waste another moment thinking about it

you were worried about it for appearances sake then? Was your DH worried too? That's kind of sad though isnt it?

oh well, be reassured you dont have to worry about that! I'm sorry you are having a hard time. Sometimes we lose our compass to tell us what is a problem or not when there are so many things flying around.

My dh and his dd live apart - and that still makes it perfectly OK. I'm not sure why it would be unusual though.

no I wasnt worried about appearances ...I am beginning to wish I hadnt asked now ..some people are apt to jump to conclusions. I was trying to avoid there being a problem when they checked in, trying to make things straight forward for my husband actually.

oh I should have listened to my DH he is sitting next to me and he said "perhaps she is worried about it from the hotels point of view" and I said no that cant possibly be how could a hotel be funny about that???? But I guess he was right.

Well... I mean I can see a hotel being worried if a man and young girl came in in some situation that I can not right now imagine... I mean if the girl seemed forced I guess, but a normal family type thing, father and daughter no I wouldnt have thought so at all!

chocaholic DH and I are sitting together eating some lovely chocolates, let that cheer you up They are meringue biscuits fully coated in milk chocolate with a hazlenut cream filling. (just trying to lighten the mood for you!)

surfermum, when I said "unusual" I meant an example like the OP might have meant more of a "boyfriend" who doesn't live in the house with her and the dd

that might be unusual, if they were to suddenly share a room

yes definitely

Still not sure I understand AF but it doesn't matter .