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Anyone else feel like a slave etc? Tell me it gets better!

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LevantineLass · 18/05/2009 21:02

Hi girls. Need a rant. DS1 is almost 4 and DS2 is 16 months and just walking. TELL ME IT GETS BETTER!!! I am just overwhelmed with it all. All I do all day is wipe bottoms, the kitchen table, empty the washing machine, prepare food, clear it up when not eaten, run to nursery and back, coerce and cajole to get DS1 to do anything, and on it goes. Sound familiar? Can't get anything done - making phonecalls is virtually impossible because they play up when I do. No chance of ever reading the paper, teaching DS1 to read (or recognise letters etc) or doing the fun stuff one is supposed to do as a SAHM. DH is away so that doesn't help. DS2 is at that classic age of putting everything in his mouth/ear/nose/down the loo so there is no peace.
But are we slaves for ever? I had a life once! Does it HAVE to be this physically exhausting?
Right, time for a drink!

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GypsyMoth · 18/05/2009 21:05

lol....it gets worse!! mine are 15,13,11,6 and 14 months. for a start you can't get to the phone no more...they are on it,and the computer!! no food in fridge,ever,even after todays £90 shop. homework is never ending, and as for a drink,i now have my eldest wanting "just a sip".....no,it gets no better!

then theres the school stuff. letters home,begging for donations,sponsors,mufti's......on and on

blinks · 18/05/2009 21:07

fuck

Overmydeadbody · 18/05/2009 21:10

yes it is never-ending, although it does get better once they are at school, although then you have all the scool stuff to remember, after school activities and clubs, money for this and that, permission slips to sign and return, parties to go to, playdates to be picked up from, and endless rquests for food and snacks.

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zonedout · 18/05/2009 21:17

Aaaargh! I feel exactly like this and ds2 is only 7 months and not even on the move yet... Clearly things are about to get a whole lot worse still

saadia · 18/05/2009 21:20

mine are both at school now and I miss those days - try to enjoy it, you will look back fondly on all the mayhem.

Smithagain · 18/05/2009 21:26

We are almost exactly three years down the line from you (DDs are nearly 7 and nearly 4).

In terms of the relentless grind, it's definitely heaps better now than it was then. Yes, there's the school stuff to remember, but it's much more interesting than snotty noses and dirty bums. And you can have real, proper conversations and everything Phone calls still a bit tricky, but if I look very, very stern, they will leave me alone for a couple of minutes at least .

Hang in there!

thenameiskerry · 18/05/2009 22:42

My DS is also 16 months old, and has been walking for 8 weeks. He now thinks that this gives him the right to decide on the direction, speed and timing of any walk!! He also thinks that he's indestructible - every time I pick him up he throws himself off me backwards - I have very sore, almost dislocated elbows from catching him!!! Today he decided not to use any useful forms of communication and has spent the whole day going ma.ma.ma.ma.ma.ma.ma.ma.ma. with ever increasing squeakiness!! In the end, I put the baby gate up on the den door so he couldn't escape, and locked myself in a cleaning frenzy in the bathroom. I hate housework, but the day was sooooooooo bad, it really helped! Shit. I think he's normal and I'm crap.

cybermammy · 18/05/2009 23:31

can SO relate to everything you guys have said. My boys are eight and five, and I think it's as hard now as it was when they were much younger - just a different kind of juggling act (one i'm pretty crap at!)
I work full time, but two days at home - biggest nightmare ever was working at home with a toddler who climbed on top of me and yanked my hair out in clumps every time I tried to make a phone call.

I've even had to make business calls while wiping his butt - lord knows what the person at the other end of the phone thought when they heard the loo flushing in the background!!!
Does it get better? You know.... I'm at the stage now where it's all been so intense that I don't know if I could cope with it being any less mad than it is...
All I can say is looking back, I wish I'd spent less time wiping down the kitchen, doing the washing up and getting stressed, and instead that I'd just enjoyed a wonderful time that you - and they - don't get back.

KerryMumbles · 18/05/2009 23:32

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FrankMustard · 18/05/2009 23:33

gets worse IME! My ds3 now asks me for things and if I don't respond within about 2 seconds says, firmly,to me "I said please may I have (this or that)"..!! He gets short shrift I can tell you!

Gateau · 19/05/2009 11:05

"You know.... I'm at the stage now where it's all been so intense that I don't know if I could cope with it being any less mad than it is..."

I can relate to that - and I only have one two-year old DS!(but expecting another DC in Oct).

Most of the posters on this thread seem to have boys. Or are girls just as manic?

Our house NEVER seems to look lovely these days, whereas I go into my friends' houses and they all look pristine. Errrggh! How on earth do they do it??!

mrsruffallo · 19/05/2009 11:06

It doesget better. Much better when there are no nappies buggies involved and they have learnt some responsibility

PaulaAtMummyKnowsBest · 19/05/2009 17:32

it does get better

mine are 10, 8 and 5 and i can now do things during the day that i want to do.

I have time to meet my friends for coffee and they can all keep themselves entertained if I have phonecalls that I need to make

When the boys are at tennis, I get to sit down with a book and relax! {grin]

thenameiskerry · 19/05/2009 20:58

Do you know. It's not always bad. Today was lovely. We went to a new toddler group where everyone just wanted to chat to us. No-one thought I was making his allergies up, and this afternoon, although it's pee'd down we've been playing football, singing loudly and stomping in the conservatory. I've decided I dwell too much on the bad and don't focus on the good. And from now on - MY GLASS IS HALF FULL!!!! xx

DamonBradleylovesPippi · 19/05/2009 21:06

mine are 3.10 and 14m and I thought it was going to get easy!!!!
Somedays I feel like a total slave like you and other days I feel like the lady of the manor. I feel the latter when one is at friend and the other sleeps most of the day !

Slickbird · 19/05/2009 21:18

It did get easier...then I went and had another two babies within two years! Fool! Not so easy now!

womblingfree · 22/05/2009 12:12

I have a similar whine to my doctor a couple of months ago as it was really getting me down (and I've only got one DD - 4.8).

He suggested doing the shopping online and getting her to join in with any chores I needed to do so that the 2 mornings she's at nursery I can do my own thing.

It's a lovely idea in theory and sometimes it works....!

Triggles · 22/05/2009 14:21

Not sure about better, but at least what you're stressing over changes over time. So it's not ALWAYS the same thing. Not sure that helps though.

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