In brief: h uses wheelchair outside house, v whizzy and sporty. Inside uses stick and it's getting more and more difficult for him to carry our little chum around AND I don't know what he'll do when commando-shuffle turns into crawling as it will any day now and s is too fast for father. And our little chum is too big for baby slings so how is h going to transport him when h is using wheelchair? My lovely H is secretly worried that if I get ill or die (which I'm not planning on), social services will take baby away from him (altho rationally he knows this won't happen but it's a measure of fear and frustration). Have been trying to sort these and other practical issues out myself but now feel like SCREAMING because have asked GPs, health visitors, etc for help since before birth. My secret cynic thinks that h is not disabled enough to register on anyone's radar and everyone thinks we cope just fine. I know about DPPI and DPN but would just love to talk to someone else who has a disabled partner and a baby!