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Invited to wedding with 8.5mo..do we take her?

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Nats79 · 15/05/2009 20:21

We have been invited to a wedding in Edinburgh (we live in London) of DH's friend from school. Options are take her with us (but what do we do with her in the evening...presumably babies don't enjoy sleeping through loud reception music in pram?), leave her with my mum down here and she is usually happy with my mum (but can't bear thought of getting on a plane without my LO - is this weird? It's only for a day)..what woudl you do?

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MissisBoot · 15/05/2009 20:23

I'd go and enjoy a rare weekend away with my dh.

If she's used to being with your mum then there's no reason why she shouldn't be fine overnight.

Go for it!

Jojay · 15/05/2009 20:23

Take her.

We're off to a wedding when Ds2 will be that age and it never occurred to me not to take him.

She may sleep in a pram in the corner, you never know, or be prepared to cut your evening back shorter than usual.

But don't not take her

Jojay · 15/05/2009 20:25

That reminds me though - we went to a wedding when DS1 was that sort of age, and we left him with MIL overnight. He was fine nad I got hammered, so it has it's advantages.

Depends if you fancy a weekend off or not.

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thisisyesterday · 15/05/2009 20:26

i would take her

pavlovthepregnantcat · 15/05/2009 20:27

Nats79, I would go without DD if you can possibly do it, a chance to have a break and really enjoy yourself.

However, if you do take her - DD slept right through my wedding - she went down at 8pm as normal in the cottage we we staying, we had windows open, and we had an enormous party outside in the grounds and she slept right through it all. She also slept through a mini festival when she was about 10 months old, in her pushchair - just make sure you don't sit right next to the music speakers. Children are surprisingly tolerant of noise, especially if they are close to parents/seeing you happy, they will relax.

Imoverhere · 15/05/2009 20:27

We were invited to a wedding nr Dover when our DD was same age, we live in Gloucester.

We had no choice but to take her (as everyone I could have left her with was at the wedding). It was fine, but I ended up leaving fairly early in the evening as she started to get hysterical with tiredness. However, all kids are different and yours might sleep fine through loud music (by DS would, by DD wouldn't).

Not sure if that helps or not. As Missisboot says, if she's happy with your mum, enjoy a night off. She'll be fine, and if she's not, she wont remember and she's in safe and loving hands (no doubt) with your mum.

Imoverhere · 15/05/2009 20:29

my Ds and my DD... not by

wahwah1270 · 15/05/2009 21:18

take her my 10 myh dd has been to 4 weddings and loves them

Habbibu · 15/05/2009 21:20

We've taken dd to several weddings - she's always slept in her pram; latest we finally got home from one was 1am, and a good time was had by all!

Can you make a holiday of it, if you take her? Edinburgh is fab.

BikeRunSki · 16/05/2009 21:16

We took DS to a wedding when he was 6.5 months. He goo-ed at the old ladies, then slept in his pram through the reception.

scotagm · 16/05/2009 21:30

Leave with your mum. Go to wedding. Enjoy.

FWIW - we are off to a wedding in Scotland with DS (nearly two) next month. This will be his first wedding. He's coming with us because we are going for five days and turning the wedding into holiday time.

One of us will have to leave early - but will push it as long as we can. He has always had a very strict 7pm bedtime and even if he seems very lively up to this point - a ten minute delay and he is shattered. If you take the little one be prepared to leave very early. Adults without children at the wedding don't always appreciate a very tired child.

Habbibu · 17/05/2009 11:41

Yes, it depends on how flexible your child is, in the end - dd copes well with bedtime being varied, but less well with being hungry!

rocketupbum · 17/05/2009 15:22

I would perhaps take the chance to enjoy a rare night off if your mum is ok looking after her. Then you can really relax, have proper conversations and a few glasses of wine!
If you do decide to take her then maybe she will sleep in her buggy. We can put both our little ones down and then once they have had last feed and quick push around they normally go off (and stay off!). We have done this at festivals and weddings.
Anyway enjoy, whichever you decide.

luvoneson · 18/05/2009 13:29

Its nice to have the odd evening off to let your hair down. I would leave the baby with your mum. Would be nice for your hubby as well, to have you to himself.

paddyclamp · 18/05/2009 14:36

I would def leave the little un at your mums. I've been to quite a few weddings since having the kids some with them and some without them ... we've always had a MUCH better time at the ones where we've left them with our mums!!

ilovemuffins · 18/05/2009 22:16

Would you be able to get a babysitter to look after her during the evening do?

We just went to a wedding this weekend, and left DS (7 months) with a babysitter for the first time. The reception took place in a hotel, and we'd booked a room close by, so we could go and check on DS/babysitter during the evening. Before the day we had been a bit apprehensive, as it was his first time with a babysitter and we had not met her personally before (although she came highly recommended by the hotel receptionist). However the babysitter really worked out well in the end. He was very comfortable with her and she clearly knew what she was doing.

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