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Sling- miracle or 'rod for own back'?

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confusedfirsttimemum · 15/05/2009 11:19

As my user name suggests, I am a confused first time mum looking for some advice.

My DD is three and a half weeks old. We love her to bits, but she is not an easy baby. Any time during the day when she isn't feeding or having her nappy changed, she seems to be unhappy and angry with the world. She often cries for long periods without us being able to settle her and, although she sleeps well at night, refuses to nap during the day. The record yesterday was 12 minutes in her cot before she started crying.

My mother says that I was very similar as a baby, and only started to calm down when I was able to interact with the world more. Her theory is that DD is a naturally 'people person' type baby who wants attention and to be stimulated, but obviously is too young for that to really work and so gets herself frustrated and over tired.

The only time DD seems content is when I put her in the sling. She always settles within about 10 minutes and falls asleep. She sleeps so solidly that I've never had her wake again whilst in the sling - it's always that I need to take her out for some reason and she then wakes up.

My question is whether anyone else has had a baby like this and what they did? I am not cut out for full on attachment parenting, but am happy to 'wear' DD for a few weeks if it helps her settle into the world. I'd like to know whether other people have found that their child naturally demanded the sling less as they got older, or whether I might be making a 'rod for my own back' (quite literally. She's heavy after 4 hours!)and have to wean her off the sling later. If your child did settle down naturally, at what age? No one I know in real life seems to have had this issue, so I'm hoping that someone on here can help.

TIA.

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 15/05/2009 11:24

Miracle, not rod!
My dd sounds a bit like yours - she was a great sleeper at night but very clingy. She would only nap on me, which meant I couldn't use nap times to do other things. The best thing to do was to put her in the front carrier and then I could get on with what I wanted.
TBH I can't remember when she stopped being like that - I went back to work when she was 6 months and the nursery staff were quite happy to cuddle her most of the time until she got big enough to be distracted by the other children and was happy to sit and watch them.

wasabipeanut · 15/05/2009 11:26

Oh lovey don't think too hard about this one. My ds was EXACTLY the same of yours in terms of temperament and he lived in his sling pretty much.

Ignore this rod for your own back twaddle - at around 3 or so month ds started to change into the incredibly independent, active and very happy little boy that he is.

Your dd has been in a warn snuggly womb for her entier life until 3 weeks ago and some babies are frankly a little pissed off with the new arrangement and need some extra cuddles. Go for it and enjoy it! Believe me, before long she'l be clambering out of your arms wanting to go an do something more exciting.

SoupDragon · 15/05/2009 11:27

Miracle.

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wuglet · 15/05/2009 11:27

sling sling sling sling sling sling!

I wore both of my kids, stopped when they got too heavy (yes I know with good slings etc that can be 2 or whatever...for me it was 8/12 with DD and 6/12 with DS)

They do want it less as they want to explore more - and TBH anything that makes those first few weeks easier is worth doing IME!

HTH

confusedfirsttimemum · 15/05/2009 11:38

Oooh, I am so pleased that you have all said that. You know how people tend to mutter darkly that you are 'creating bad habits' and I was starting to wonder whether I was just making my life harder for later.

The weirdest thing about all of this is that a cuddle does not work as well as the sling. DH's theory is that DD likes being supported all over (it's one of the Closer stretch fabric ones in the upright position, so she's 'held' from her knees, right up her body and over her head) and that that makes her more secure than even a cuddle does.

Am going to stop stressing about this one...

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confusedfirsttimemum · 15/05/2009 11:38

Sorry, should also have said- THANK YOU!

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naomi83 · 15/05/2009 11:48

could also be reflux. it gets worse when they are lying flat, esp after a feed (night time= less feeding= less distress. with silent relux they aren't even sick, just cry and cry. We didn't find out for ages as our doctor just labelled it "colic" and DS was only happy upright in swing/carrier. It was amazing to get it diagnosed, and how baby gaviscon gave us back our happy, sweet baby.

confusedfirsttimemum · 15/05/2009 12:03

Oh Naomi, that's interesting. I had assumed that it couldn't be reflux because she feeds and then goes back to sleep so happily at night. Your explanation makes sense though. The Health Visitor is coming on Monday (and she seems to be really helpful based on her last visit), so I might ask her about it first.

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BunnyLebowski · 15/05/2009 13:03

Get her in a sling pronto!

I had dd in one at 2 days old and she loved it....I even used to go for a wee with her still in it

She's 7 months now and we only use it when we're out and about but it never caused us any problems with clinginess etc.

So in answer to your op - Miracle!

Bananaramamama · 15/05/2009 13:34

Sling!

jellybelly25 · 15/05/2009 13:59

miracle! go for it.

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