DD toilet trained but doing No.2's in nappy

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My DD has been toilet trained since she was just turned 2. She was using the toilet for wee and poos, but after a few days she started handing me a nappy which I had to put on her then disappear and return with wipes telling me she had a poo in her nappy.

I read that children that age believe their bowel movements are an extension of themselves and are fearful of flushing them down the toilet, so I decided to let it be.

But 6 months later, she is still handing me the nappy when she wants to poo. She refuses to do them in the potty or toilet. I've tried rewards but she gets distressed if I try to insist. The last thing i want is regression.

Otherwise she never has an accident, and I could have said she's my earliest toilet-trained child if poos were only done in the toilet or potty!

Has anybody else had that problem, and if so what did you do?

I forget to add when I read that about toddlers being fearful about flushing poos down the toilet, I bought her a potty but still no joy. She only wees in it.

there is maybe a way to get rid of the nappy, as she knows when she wants to go you are OK, at some time perhaps a story time you can tell her the sad story of the little girl/boy who doesn't have a nappy to poo in and wouldn't it be nice to give it to this child. There is a fairly that visits gardens and collects the nappy and leaves a little present. You need to buy said (wanted) present (special book/doll blah blah)in advance then a whole production of tying nappy onto tree with pretty ribbon. when said child asleep replace nappy with present. Make sure nappy cannot be found, this ploy works very well with dummies as well. good luck.

I don't want to dismay you but this is very common. My friends daughter would only poo in a nappy till the age of 6. One day she just went on the loo and that was it.
She would come home in the evening, ask for a nappy, put it on, go somewhere to poo in private then come back for the nappy to be taken off.
Any attempts over the years to get rid of nappies were met with a refusal to poo - once for over a week even when the nappies were given back after 4 days.
Maybe stories and treats will work but if not, please don't stress about it or the child will stress too and that won't help the situation at all.