2 young kids & lots of soaked bedding. Night time training seems to be failing

[catherineseiont]

Advice with night training my 4.5 year old (boy) & 3 yr old girl to stop using nappies.
At their grandparents they go thro the night dry. At home we haven't had a completely dry night yet. Should i stop, lift or persevere??

I lifted Ds1 at about 10pm every night for a week, then he was fine.

I personally would stop, if you haven't had a dry night at home yet.

If you do a search on older threads, you will find lots of helpful advice on this.

My own dd was 4 when she was finally dry at night. (dry at 2 in the day).

Basically, there is some hormone that needs to be triggered before the child is physically able to stay dry at night. This may not occur til 7 or after. I felt that I would rather wait rather than put dd and myself through the stress of wet beds, wet pjs etc.

How regularly do they stay at gps? It may be that they are going to bed later, getting up earlier, gps may be lifting them?

How much are they having to drink before bed? My DD only has milk after her dinner and she has been dry for 8 weeks at night (nearly 3yrs).

I would stop put them in night times and try again when 5.6 for both of them. I was told 6pm is the magic hour and for no drinks after 6 and list if I wanted - which I did for the first week. Then she was dry and has been ever since.

The drinks guidance made absolutely no difference to my dd.

Re the bedding. If you are keen to persevere, then get a decent waterproof sheet and try and avoid a thick duvet. We found the duvet got soaked too (and doesn't fit in our machine!). We put a sheet from Mothercare (terry fabric on one side) directly under the child. It is easier imo to wash a couple of sheets and a blanket/fleece blanket than a duvet.

Good advice Creme egg. I think the average age for dry at night is 4 or 5 anyway. I know if DD starts to wet again I won't be too fussed.

That happened with our dd Pat. She was dry for a good few weeks around 2.6 (at night) then it all changed. That sounds really negative, your dd may well have cracked it. They are all different.

A friend saw a consultant about this who told her there is no point restricting drinks or lifting them. They have to learn bladder signals and that will happen naturally, when they are ready for it.

God yeah, DS only tiny at the moment but not looking forward to potties again. Heard that boys are harder too!

Stop and try again in a couple of months, if they are dry.

Lifting has limited success generally.
Restricting liquid is not generally deemed a good idea either.

My DD was 6 before she was consistently dry and even now at 7y has had the odd accident. She gradually improved, slowly, from about 4yy onwards. She just couldn't do it - her body wasn't ready. She was dy during the day from 24 months and was desperate to be dry at night, so it wasn't laziness, etc.

Lifting made no different. We allowed DD t drink as much as she wanted, but fro about 3:30pm onwards only water was allowed. For DD we did eventually determine that she was more likely to wet in the night if she had anything other than water to drink. Juice was the worst culprit.

Get hold of some reuseable bed mats - Mothercare did do them. These go over the top of the bottom sheet so f they have an accident only this has to be changed with any luck.

Decided that getting both of them out of nappies at the same time was too hard so just concentrating on older son. Last two night he's woken up completely dry, no wet beds & a very pleased mum, dad &little boy!