DS (2.10) does have a problem with lashing out at children if they try to take toys off him. He has been told to shout NO if he doesn't like what another a child is doing. This is handy because if I've taken my eyes off him at the wrong second this alerts my attention to the situation and I can go and diffuse it and calm DS down before he lashes out.
Anyway she went to pick DS up and it turns out they think DS has lashed out at another little boy (2.6) who has big chunks out of his face They weren't certain cos 3 children were near this little boy when it happened but when the mum asked the little boy who it was he said it was my DS. They said my DS had been in a car and this little boy had tried to pull him out and so they think DS had lashed out at him. I'm not really sure how it happened because DS is supposed to have 1 to 1 care, so you'd think they would have been able to intervene quickly enough to stop it happening.
Then the little boy's mum started having a massive go at my mum who was a bit nervous and unsure what to do and now she doesn't want to pick him up anymore which is a shame because DS really loves Tuesday's when his Grandma picks him up.
I can understand the mum being angry that her son's face has got chunks out of it but it should be the preschool she is angry with, not my mum. My mum thinks she thought she was DS' mum but that's not really the point. How can we stop him from hurting people when we aren't even there! Not really a point to this thread just wanted to get my thoughts together a bit.