Would you move your ds back if you was me

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My ds who is 8 left infant school back in September 08 and we moved him to a new junior school closer to where we live for various reasons.
My ds had a lovely group of freinds at infant school and he does keep in touch with one or two of them.
Although I do think he is generally okay at his new school and is sort of playing with people I don,t feel he has really made the sort of good friends he had at infant school and I feel wracked with guilt.
I have tried asking him if there is someone he would like to invite on a playdate but I get the impression there isn,t really anyone that he feels are a good enough friend to ask.
He doesn,t seem to like the school it is quite a strict school which I know is a good thing but I suppose it boils down to the fact that my ds is simply not nearly as happy as he was at his old infant school.
His old mates all moved into the juniors that was federated with the infant school.
He has said in the past that he doesn,t just want to see his old mates at home but all of the time at school and I overheard him saying to one of them that his old school was the best ever.
I am also badly missing the old school and his old load of friends which I know is a bit pathetic of me really.
My ds was recently invited to a party of one of his old mates and he looked so comfortable with them like he had never been away.
I am so tempted to move him back but would this be a foolish move.
I do know that all of his old mates have been moved about so are not all in the same class as they used to be.
My dh thinks that the break has to come some day as once its time for secondary everyone will go their seprate ways anyway.
Please I can,t help but feel things would be better for him if I moved him back.

He'll have to leave them anyway when he's 11 to go to secondary school.

I'm having this problem, the grass is always greener and all that.

Why did you move him? Wouls it make things vvery difficult to move him back??

I know lots of people have to move and children usually do fine but I personally think that unless a child is unhappy at school that moving them for anything other than unavoidable reasons is not a good idea generally.

It takes a long time to make friends even as a child.

Of course the break will come at secondary school, you can't avoid that but there is a lot of evidence that even this this move is very stressful for many children. Why give him more stress then necessary. Your son has been at this new school for almost a year and is still not that happy. I personally would seriously consider moving him back for next year if at all possible (assuming your son would like to move back and the old school has room for him)