i have to stop treating youngest dc like he is king

[cheesesarnie]

i want this now,not that one,no mummy,do it like this,carry me,not those shoes,blah blah blah.

basically he is king,i am servant.he wants to be carried room to room,will lay on pavement screaming because he wants to go different way home,wont do anything for himself but nothing is ever right.hes 3 and 3rd child.i give 2 choices when i can so for example'these socks or these socks.but sometimes-as in we must leave the house-theres no choice.and sometimes it gets stupid-not that bowl at dinner time,no i said that one,not that knife and fork etc till everything in cupboard is dirty.

at nursery they say hes an angel but they also said they call him contary and ignore him when he gets his grump on.

i know i just have to stop giving in but sometimes-like when going to school or trying to get older 2 dcs homework done its easier to give in.

help.

god-i know im being a dumbarse and letting a 3 year old walk all over me.and i cant seem to get into words quite how hard he is.

see if i tried saying if your good you can have a treat he'll scream and tantrum until he gets it anyway.

i am rubbish and i need to stop.

he was so good for so long-we even thought there was something 'werong' as a baby as he was an amazing baby.do you think ive put him on the pedestal and aged 3 he cant help but fall off?i let him get away with murder and its not fair on eldest 2.its not so much pfb here but pthirdb!but as he was always such an easy baby its a huge shock to suddenly find that im no longer 'in charge',he is!

best go collect him from nursery!thanks for all advise

Cheesesarnie, that is funny, DS2 was a dream baby too.
Even DS1 gives in to him, try the carrot and stick approach and you will reap the rewards.

PinkTulips - oh yes been with you on the 'threaten to walk away' standoff. When DS1 was 3 he tantrumed in a park and refused to come with me. I left him sat on the grass and walked away about 500m. I could see him and no one was around but he just sat there -not even crying but just looking at me.

I gave in of course .

well his highness has dozed off after walk and lunch.he dozed off whilst crying for me to pass something to him that was right in front off him.
he tantrumed whilst making lunch because he wanted to help,then he didnt want that knife for margerine,gave him choice of plates(2) he chose but then decided on a completly different one,i didnt give in,cried because whilst screaming about plate id taken his lunch into different room.ummmm oh yes,cried because wanted tv on-which i had said yes too!cried when a programme finished.blah blah blah.i tried to keep out of it and let him argue alone.tried.

pinktulips-im sure he will be fine.