Does using pull-ups while out and pants in the house lead to confusion?

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I don't know what to do for the best.

DD is 2.6 and we're on day 9 of potty training. Most days she gets it right 50% of the time. She knows wees and poos should go in the potty, and will go and sit on it and wee without being asked to sit, but sometimes she makes no effort to reach the potty at all. I'm hoping things will get better with time. In the meantime I am fed up of being tied to the house, and so is she. We've tried going out in pants, but she will not use a potty (even her own potty from home) or any toilet except at home. She went a whole day at nursery and had only 1 wee all day - on the floor. We went for a walk and she weed on the floor in a shop.

So my question is, if I put her in pull ups occasionally so that we can leave the house and not worry about accidents, will she get confused and end up thinking she is safe to wee wherever she is? The book I read said it's a really bad idea to mix and match, but I'd rather have advice from real life Mums!

Thanks

Pull-ups are only confusing if you use them as a substitute for toilet breaks. You still need to offer the toilet regularly, change them as soon as they're wet, etc. The phobia of accidents makes potty training stressful for both parties. It's getting warm out, take a few changes of clothes and if you like, stick a big sanitary towel inside her knickers; it'll catch small accidents.

I used the ones with the pictures on the front that disappear when they get wet - can't remember what they are called. I gave him a reward for keeping the pictures on - sticker chart type thing.

I haven't looked into it yet, so are there different types of pull-ups? If so which type is best?
Thanks.

If you really can't leave the house because she is regularly wet then it sounds like she may not be ready.

Switching between pants and pull-ups can be confusing for some children and if she is so anxious about weeing anywhere other than home then the whole thing is going to become a disaster before you start. I would back off a bit and see if she wants to try again in a month or two. IMO and IME until they know they need a wee, not that they have done one, then it's easier all round to wait.

I think it probably varies by child but my two dss wore pull-ups outside during training and it didn't confuse them at all. We had times when they needed a toilet but we couldn't get to one so I told them it didn't matter if they couldn't hold on.

I did wonder about putting DD back in nappies and trying again in a few months, but I can't decide if I've just not given her enough of a chance to learn yet. How long should potty training take? I've only been trying it for 10 days.

I have found that if a child is truly ready then it takes just days. (obviously they still have the odd accident but they are few and far between.)

With my girls I found that if I was led by them, and stopped putting them in nappies when they indicated they didn't want them anymore, could tell me they needed a wee or poo (not just that they had already been) and could pull their own trousers down then we were there. With DD3 she decided one morning "no more nappies Mummy" and that was it. We have only had a handful of accidents and she has been in knickers now for over a month.

So I guess I subscribe to the idle mum, hands off, child led form of toilet training

Didn't confuse dd at all, and I'd have gone mad stuck in the house - but she was clearly ready to do it, which I think does make a difference.

as someone who works in a nursery and has helped potty train lots of children, I second what sidge said
when a child is ready, it will only take a few days
otherwise you can drag it out for months
putting her in pull ups can confuse them, but they can also give them a bit of confidence, knowing that they will not do it in their pants, it can also take the pressure off everyone
why not use pull-ups but have regular toilet trips, encouraging her to tell you when she needs to go

I think I'll try pull-ups for outings and see if we make any more progress over the next week. If nothing changes I'll go back to nappies for a while.

Is it better to get Pampers 'Feel and Learn' or the Easy Up pants? Are they both for the same purpose?