Hi
Just wondering how to handle this situation but my ds has made friends with a boy at school although they are not in the same class but are in the same year.
The problem is that this lad has some behavioural problems which his mother has not ever been able to sort out and she is always having problems with him.
The behaviour he displays is swearing, sticking his finger up and wispering in my ds's ear offensive things about people even strangers he just seems to like mouthing off at people.
Sometimes he is fine and him and my ds play fine together but I am quite worried about his behaviour rubbing off on my ds and that this boys behaviour will get my ds or even me into trouble.
Yesterday this boy came to my house and my ds and him were playing in my back garden when I heard them talking over the fence to the gril of 9 who lives next door and who happened to have her freind there from school also.
I noticed that whatever was been said over the fence wasn,t friendly banter and it was mainly my ds's freind that was doing the talking he was obivously mouthing off again at this girl and her friend so I went out and said whats going on and the girls mom was in the garden and she said that my ds and his mate were not been very nice and were swearing over the fence at her dd and freind.
My ds and his mate were retaliating by saying that her daughter was swearing and sticking her finger up at them and she called my ds and his mate a couple of fibbers quite aggressively.
I know that if I hadn,t of remained neutral and calm about the siutation that things could have turned very nasty.
Then the next thing was that she sent my ds in to get me again as apparently my ds,s mate had been saying racist comments to her dd's freind who happens to be ethnic.
I am not talking of really bad comments but just silly name calling although I am aware that anything thing like this is totally unacceptable and I really told this lad off in my noeghbours presence.
However the whole episode has unsettled me and I am worried that this lad will bring trouble for us if I let the realtionship continue and I would hate for my own ds's behaviour to change as I know he may be easily led by him.
They only play together three times a week after school but if this lad had his way he would be here every day and the realtionship has become a little intense.
What should I do should I keep my ds away.