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Please come and talk to me about imaginary friends

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dilemma456 · 23/04/2009 13:18

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Iklboo · 23/04/2009 13:20

DS's imaginary friend has an imaginary friend! (He's also 3.6). I think it's fairly normal and shows good imagination.

Hassled · 23/04/2009 13:21

Your DD sounds wonderful and highly imaginative. No, it's fine and normal and when she no longer mentions them you'll find you miss them.

I still miss "Virgil" who was part of DS2's life for a long time . Virgil was a nice lad, albeit not a real one.

ElinorDashwood · 23/04/2009 13:22

Sounds fantastic - I wouldn't discourage it at all.

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orangehead · 23/04/2009 13:22

I had an imaginary friend - lucy, for a few years. Its perfectly normal I think.

Hassled · 23/04/2009 13:23

DS2 also had an imaginary country - it had its own very complicated electoral system but the clouds were ice-cream. It sounded lovely.

ilovemydogandMrObama · 23/04/2009 13:26

Agree it shows imagination.

Only thing to watch is when she blames bad behavior (not play doh, but really really bad) on her bears/monsters. Maybe say something like, 'you are responsible for your monsters behavior...'

But wouldn't worry about it at all.

MirandaG · 23/04/2009 13:27

My DD (5) has an imaginary husband AND get this...boyfriend, but it's ok because her husband has a girlfriend too. And before you ask we have a pretty conventional marriage set up...I think.
Both my sister and I had imaginary friends but the husband and boyfriend are new to me!

Mizza76 · 23/04/2009 13:30

I read somewhere that imaginary friends are a sign of intelligence.

angelene · 23/04/2009 13:31

My DD (also 3 and a half) has a whole family of imaginary friends including a Granny & Grandpa, and her best friend Emma. I've heard her having arguments with them recently.

Of course being the paranoid type I put this down to her being an 'only'. Do children with siblings do this to the same extent?

MorocconOil · 23/04/2009 13:32

My DD almost 4 has an imaginary sister(she has 2 brothers in RL). This sister goes to school with DD, and if DD ever does anything wrong then she says her sister did it. Fortunately the staff seem to find it all very amusing.

I am not worried about it. People have told me it's meant to be a sign of high intellect.

Hassled · 23/04/2009 13:34

angelene - nothing to do with being an "only". DS2 is one of four children. Just the sign of a very bright child [smug].

Seuss · 23/04/2009 13:36

My ds2 used to have an imaginary friend who lived nearby and had all the animals ds2 wanted but we wouldn't let him have! He gets really embarrased if we mention him now.

dilemma456 · 23/04/2009 13:52

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cory · 23/04/2009 14:45

My dn (one of 3) nearly burst into tears when a man got onto the bus and sat on his imaginary friend!

Dd (one of 2) had quite a family including a stripey baby and her dad "who is also stripey and lives in Portsmouth". I kept looking at all the men we met when we went to Portsmouth, but sadly was never introduced to my stripey son-in-law.

I was one of 4 but I also had imaginary friends. Most of my family, at least on my mother's side, seem to have had them. My Gran blamed all her misdemeanours on hers.

JustCallMeGoat · 23/04/2009 14:48

i was one of four and had inwisible people as i like to call them. i don't really remember much about them but my mother does.

dd chat merrily in her room all the time. quite normal.

JustCallMeGoat · 23/04/2009 14:48

well i was one of four then the other 2 came along (just incase my sister reads this and thinks i am writin gher out of my life!)

odisco · 24/04/2009 08:55

My DD has 5 children who are constantly being naughty and having to be told off. They often get tired instead of my DD....

Chaotica · 24/04/2009 12:01

OP - You know the monster family too? They frequently come around to our house (and often steal the chocolate when the DCs are asleep).

In addition to them, we have several people from CBeebies, a baby called 'I like to move it move it baby' and Barack Obama (really!).

DD is not yet 3. I'm sure I've missed someone out...

Sibh · 24/04/2009 12:11

When DS was 2.5 he had two friends, Jim and Jack, who had blue faces. Jack always crashed the car so Jim drove. They often knocked on the door, and I had to shake hands with them. Woe betide me if I picked the wrong height to shake at. Over time, they acquired a mummy, Julia, who abandoned them for weeks just after DD was born. DS was cross with me of course, and Julia returned the day before he told me he loved me again. They also had a little brother called Ozlin Chair Sozlin. They were builders and he did work for them for £7 a day.

In the end, quite brilliantly, they ripped him off on a major building project and when they spent all the money they owed him on beer and betting on horses (my dad's hobbies emerging here) he ditched them. grin

I kind of miss them. When I asked after them the other day he looked vaguely embarassed. About 10 minutes ago I described DS, now nearly six, as fabulously nuts on another thread because according to him there were 64 lions in the playroom at one point today. He dictates really brilliant stories that we make into books. His imagination is wonderful. Julia gave me a fantastic invisible recipe book which helped to broaden his taste in foods.

I'd say sit back and enjoy it, and make use of the friend when you can, but I know that not everyone is comfortable with how far this can go. A deeply practical friend of mine just couldn't cope with Jim and Jack at all ... Any mention of them had to be banned when she was about.

The funniest thing I ever heard on the radio was an hour-long phone-in on Radio Five about imaginary friends, many of whom met spectacular deaths.

dilemma456 · 24/04/2009 13:32

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bumpybecky · 24/04/2009 14:06

dd1's imaginary friend Charlie was horrendously naughty. He drew on walls, bounced on beds, emptied all of dd1&2's clothes out of the drawers and threw them down the stairs. Charlie akso used to tell dd1 to do naughty things. I didn't like him much and in the end Charlie had to go and live with Grandma! I'm not sure if he's still there, will have to ask MIL

dd3 has several imaginary friends, her favourite one Kia has a whole family. Kia is evry well behaved though. I think it's because we've explained what happened to Charlie...

StewieGriffinsMom · 24/04/2009 15:06

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Sassyfrassy · 24/04/2009 15:38

dd1 (4) has had her imaginary friends for about a year and they are called Bustados and Joan. Bustados is alternates between being Joan's big brother or her mummy as dd1 likes being the daddy. They also have imaginary pets. She often uses them to tell us about things she would like to do or happen.

littlebrownmouse · 24/04/2009 18:29

I was told to slow down once when driving on the motorway as DS's 'animal friends' (many and varied and not allowed in the car) couldn't keep up. We all had to be different animals each day too, it was fabulous. Every day started with the following question "Mum, do you know which animal we're being today?" He passed them onto DD for a while, but she's not so interested and has a friend called Sam who is apparently DS's twin brother (funny, I don't remember two of them coming out!). I loved the animal friends as they were so avant garde and such good company, Sam is frankly, a little bit dull.

littlebrownmouse · 24/04/2009 18:33

Just remembered, when DS was about three and a half, he used to ride on the buggy board to and from nursery. I was trying to get him to walk more often and once we had the following conversation.
Me DS, I want you to walk today because you are a big boy.

DS I can't walk today.

Me Why?

DS Because today I'm a mummy duck and I have to get home fast to feed my ducklings. They're all alone at home and will be sad.

What an excuse! When he got home he did a whole imaginary animal friend duck feeding routine. Bless him!

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