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What time does your Year 5 child go to bed?

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MagNacarta · 22/04/2009 09:47

dd1 is on a quest to get her bedtime moved from 8.30 to 9pm using the old favourite argument of 'all my friends do'. DD goes to bed at 8.30 and reads for half an hour although it isn't unheard of for me to let her stay up till 9, I want to keep it as an occassional thing rather than routine.

I guess the issue for me is really that I don't feel that my evening starts untill she's in bed. There are tv programmes that I don't think she should see etc.

So, am I being unfair to her and move bedtime to 9 or stick to my guns?

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Juxal · 22/04/2009 09:50

9ish; dd will be 10 in August. It's been that time since year 4 tbh. She will lie in bed reading for a while as well.

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BabyBaby123 · 22/04/2009 10:31

10pm normally, although am trying to get it back to 9.30 - personally, I would say 8.30 is too early for a child that age but might be just me!

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bellavita · 22/04/2009 10:33

DS2 (9 & Yr4) on a school night - 8.30

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castille · 22/04/2009 10:42

DD2 is 9.5 and usually goes to bed to read around 8.30 on a school night, sith lights off at 9ish, later if she isn't sleepy.

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Tortoise · 22/04/2009 10:47

Ds2 is 9 (10 in Oct) and goes at 8.30pm. Sometimes 8pm if he wants to read for a bit.
His brother is 12 and goes at 9pm.

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SlartyBartFast · 22/04/2009 10:51

dd3 10 in november, i would like her in bed by 9, but it is hard work, hoping to get back into the earlier routine soon.

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LadyGlencoraPalliser · 22/04/2009 10:53

My 9 and 11 year olds are in bed by 8.30. DD2 usually lights out at 8.45 after reading for a bit, DD1 reads for longer.

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goldrock · 22/04/2009 10:53

My 10 yo DS goes at about 9, I'm actually pleased to see that this is about average as I think its a bit late but I'm on my own during the week and it takes me until then to get the younger DCs in bed. He goes straight to sleep at 9 and will sometimes go at 8.45 if he's really tired.
I do agree wit the OP about the night not starting until then and I do find that tiring.

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sinpan · 22/04/2009 10:54

What time does she get up? Mine go at 9, read for a bit, lights out by 9:30 latest. They get up about 7:30 so I think 10 hours sleep is plenty for 10 and 11 year olds. Friday and Saturday I might let them stay up playing or reading half an hour later but I still try to have them heading bed-wards soon after 9.

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LauriefairycakeeatsCupid · 22/04/2009 10:56

yr 6 - goes to bed at 8. She is struggling to get to sleep as it's light but she is also hard to wake at 7.30.

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AramintaMoondial · 22/04/2009 10:56

7.30 for my dd (5)!!!! I must be such a cruel mum! She's allowed to read or listen to story CDs though.

I think you should definitely stick to your guns MagNacarta. Have you tried putting a story CD on for her in bed?

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AramintaMoondial · 22/04/2009 10:57

OOOps I read the title as 5 year old rather than year 5 - thought you were all a bit lenient out there...

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jeminthecity · 22/04/2009 10:57

DD is in year 5- she goes to bed between 8.30 and 9 on a school night. Weekends and holidays I let her stay up late with me.

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jeminthecity · 22/04/2009 10:58

Araminta

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Khara · 22/04/2009 11:00

My ds is 10 (nearly 11) and in Y6. He goes to bed at 9pm on a school night. Sometimes (ok, often) this slips to 9.30ish as he procrastinates a lot. I would like it a little earlier, but when he did go at 8.30 he wasn't getting to sleep for ages. Even now he's often not asleep before 10pm.

He does get up at 7.15-7.30 when my dh gets up, so I am a bit concerned he doesn't get enough sleep.

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Latchley · 22/04/2009 17:15

My Ds is 10 and we aim for lights out by 8.15 on a school night. If he is in bed before that time he can read until lights out. (I would add that he doesn't finish school until 5.00 followed by homework, and he has Saturday school 8.30 until 4 so he is pretty whacked!).

Holidays it is usually nearer 9, but no reading.

He has always liked his bed tho' - takes after his lazy mum !

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MagNacarta · 24/04/2009 19:22

Sorry it took so long to come back to the thread. Hmm, well it sounds like I'm being a bit tough on dd then, she has trouble going off to sleep, so 8.30 probably is a bit early. I think perhaps I need to try to see 'my' evening starting earlier while the dc's are still up. DD2 and DS go to bed at 7.30 so maybe that should signal the start of evening.

DH is away or working late a lot, so I do tend to watch tv in the evening and there are a lot of things I wouldn't want her to see. Am going to have to get my head around her growing up.

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Phoenix4725 · 26/04/2009 08:18

omg i must be real mean mum ds2 is in year 7 and on school nights I alternate one night in bed by 8pm read for while and next night in bed by 8,30 -9pm but anything later he is real cranky

mind this is a child age8 got in a strop because i would not let him go to bed at 6pm

ds3 and dd are both in bed by 7 there 6 and 4

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purepurple · 26/04/2009 08:23

DD in YR7 has been going to bed at 9 for a few years.
She can read or whatever she wants to do in her room, but she has to be in her room by 9. This is because me and DH need some time on our own and most tv is not suitable for her age.
At the weekends she will stay up till about 10.
I normally wake her at 7 and she gets up fine.

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lilyjen · 27/04/2009 13:53

I don't think you're being unreasonable but 9 is prob ok for her, also i don't see what t.v has to do with kids bedtimes, if something isn't suitable then record it or don't watch it, there's plenty of unsuitable t.v shows on after 9 for lots of ages (or before) but sending kids to bed early so you can watch just isn't fair!

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purepurple · 27/04/2009 15:20

I don't care whether it's fair or not. it's my house and bed time is when i say it is.

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MayorNaze · 27/04/2009 15:24

stick to your gun OP.

ds is Y5, he goes at any time between 7 and 8.30 depending on whats on tv, his behaviour and how desperate i am for some peace and quiet. usually he goes at 7.30ish and reads til 8.30. any later than that for lights out and he is a royal PITA as he is so tired...

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MayorNaze · 27/04/2009 15:26

...and i have just read the thread and obv i am mean!

but i second what purepurple sais - my house my rules!

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treedelivery · 27/04/2009 15:32

Mine 4.5 and bedtime is 7, asleep for 7.30. Up anywhere from 7 till 9 am.

Anything less than 12 hours and we get lack of concentration and hyper activity. Nightmare in summer, but black out blind and curtains do the trick. She can tell the time so knows I'm not ripping her off!

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