DD (22mo) getting distraught at weeing herself when nappy is off

[Bumperlicioso]

DD is 22mo. This evening while waiting for her bath I stripped her off nappy and all while waiting for the bath to finish and DD weed on the floor. She was really distraught. It's not the first time, it's happened once or twice before but never this bad, to the point where she refused to get in the bath (and is still v stinky tonight's dinner and 2 days on the allotment!), has refused to put her pyjamas on (bed in wellies it is then ) and basically was just really upset at weeing herself.

We have never reproached her for weeing on the floor. We haven't even thought about potty training yet. She does understand going for a wee as she gets upset just before she does (but goes running off in tears before I can do anything about it). We have a potty that we tried her on before she was a year old but she hated it, and TBH it seemed quite uncomfortable, so we have planned to get another one, but weren't going to worry about it yet.

Basically where do I go from here? Should I get another potty and introduce her to it? I haven't the foggest how to even go about potty training. And how do we get past the weeing in/before the bath situation. It's not a problem from my POV at all but clearly is for DD.

IMO 22 months is too young to be worrying about potty training. In future, can you not just take her nappy off at the last second before putting her in the bath?

HTH

No advice really Bumper, except that DS went through a phase of this and virtually had a panic attack and paddy every time his nappy was taken off when getting ready for the bath. He would do the same if we took his nappy off for him to sit on the potty.

We just ignored it and got on with the routine and he soon got over it...took a week or so.

bumper, you say she gets upset just before having a wee...is there any chance it's sore?

It's a real conumdrum for me as well as DS1 was in full time nursery when he was potty training and they basically did the hard work for me . We got DD some big girl pants and she screams if they come anywhere near her, yet she will happily try and put mine on at every available opportunity . she is at the stage of nappy refusal/take off, but still wees on the floor and doesn't seem aware until it's happening.

Anyhoo, have you had a look at any books? They might help her.

Re potties, I'm planning on getting one of these by tots bots or you could try a toilet trainer seat and cut a potty out altogether since you don't have to get upstairs so will have less chance of an accident.

Thanks chaps. Daisy, I'm getting exactly that potty! My friend is on the totsbots forum and gets 40% off!

Not sure if she is sore otherwise she would be getting upset all the time surely? I think she gets upset just before as she knows it's coming and can't stop it yet.

Glad to hear that DS went through the same thing (well, not 'glad', but you know what I mean).

I'll see how she goes this week. God daisy, that toilet training book and CD with songs 'to make toilet training fun' makes me want to shoot myself!

gosh bumper, the only thing i can think of it to strip her to the nappy, actually STAND her in the bath and take it off just before she sits down?

or something i would personally do, but u may not. i would wee on the floor myself, then clear it up together to show her it really isnt a big deal?
thats a bit looney for most people, but i have used this technique to get round messy hands with food when ellen had a problem with being messy and it used to really upset her. (yes i smeared food all over me and we wiped it up together laughing, not as appealing as its wee not food lol)

You will never know why she freaked I'm afraid. I would get in the bath with her for a few evenings. I'm sure I had some bath issue with DD1, and that's how we overcame it IIRC. It's also a very lovely thing to do. You get in first, or get in holding her. Don't put her in first or she might get upset again.

I think you just take her nappy off and put her in the bath. Or stand her in the bath then take the nappy off. It doesn't matter if she sits in the bath with her nappy on, you can take if off then (of course, you wouldn't want to do this if it was pooey ).

Unless she's asking for the potty or showing signs that she's ready I'd forget the potty altogether. In 6 months time it will be a different story most probably.

I'm not a fan of potties personally. Rather have a little loo seat with handles.

oooh, who is your friend bumper?....I'm on that forum as well ....although I've not had any samples to test yet! tell her I'm daisybump on there.