Nobody to play with in neighbourhood

[fimby]

Hi
My ds is an only and he is 8 years old.
The only opportunity he has to play with other children is when I arrange playdates from school.
I was very happy when we moved to a new area and he had the opportunity to play with a few children in the street, and didn,t feel under so much pressure to arrange the playdates.
However despite things been great last summer with my ds getting on great with neighbourhood children and managing to make a few friends here and there things have gone totally pearshaped now.
There became problems with ganging up, threesomes that didn,t work etc, and some nasty arguments etc were my ds always ended up as the one ousted which I know was probably due to the fact that in this circle of friends there was more compatability between some than others as playmates and that there were children who were closer anyway as they had been brought up next door to each other etc.

Things did became more trouble than what they were worth once my ds started to play out and now nobody calls for my ds any more and I just feel so disappointed as I really want my ds to have mates to play out with like other children.
He doesn,t seem that bothered about it as I do ensure he has people from school.
However just wondering if anyone has had similar problems once their dc started playing out or is it just us.
Its really upset me how its turned out.
My dp thinks that I am a loon for this bothering me and maybe I am.

anyone please feel as though everybody elses dc has a endless supply of neighbourhood friends for good without any of these problems.

bump

Maybe not much help, but fights and arguments don't usually last long... maybe in a week or two all will be forgotten.
My ds is the same age and falls out with his friends pretty regularly... You're doing the right thing by making sure he has friends from school to play with.

Bump. We live on a remote farm in a 'community' that has long died out. There are a couple of boys a few miles away but when my dd went to the local school 9 miles away she found it hard to be accepted by the other girls as they were quite unfriendly. Things like never being invited to birthday parties or round to play after school. It hurts.

We home educate now and she is even more isolated socially despite trying to mix at the local scouts. Some people find disability hard to accept I think.

Are there cubs or swimming groups that your ds could go to, fimby? It is so hard trying to help your dcs to find friends when the children have their own politics and ethos. I feel sad for you and hope something works out for your son.