my toddler acts worse when grandma around...tips??

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is this normal? any tips?

grandma has always critised me in fornt of toddler so perhaps 20 month old picks up on this misbehaves and then knows i dont reprimand / discipline as much and can get get away with a bit more than usual

tips on how to handle there and then

eg at supermarket always behaves with me..yest grandma there and then does not want to go in trolley ..grandma says leave him be or will tantrum

i cant tell my mum off in front of little one so tips???

help!!!!!!!!!!!!

you can drop hints to your mum without 'telling her off' hopefully
just say something like 'mum i think it's better if just one of us deals with him when he is mucking about - it's confusing for him otherwise'

otherwise yes i would say it is very normal - you will be tense and ds will pick up on it - but don't blame yourself, a bit of difficult behaviour like this is really not a big deal at this age, and it's fine to be flexible about rules if it makes your life easier - eg don't make him go in the trolley on that occasion if you don't need to

about your mum criticising - please don't let her do this - think of a few calm assertive responses and practice them in advance!
eg
'thanks, but this way works for me'
or 'ah well i expect i make mistakes sometimes but i am learning'
or just 'this is the way i want to do it"!

My 20 month ds is exactly the same when dh is around or anyone for that matter. Don't know whay but when someone else is around he thinks he can get away with more and won't go in trolleys/ pushchair etc yet with me it's not a problem. He's fine with dh on his own too. He seems to just know when there are 2 of us that he can be picked up so he should be if you seewhat I mean?? I don't ever take him shopping if I'm going into town with friends cos I know he'll just scream for attention no matter how much talking and distracting I do. I agree with Franny though. You don't have to argue with your mum about it but just say something!!! He's your ds and you know him better than anyone.