Day 3 and Ive had t throw in the towell!!!!

[melsy]

Or rather the nappy , Ive said Im taking the nappy of my 2.8 yr old this morning and shes really not happy. The last 2 days havent been very positive, except may be shes more aware of weeing &pooing (all over dd1's bedroom bless her), with no nappy , but as expected dd2 has been going everywere except the potty or toilet!

Im feeling that if its a fight then shes not ready yet. Some good advice from a nanny friend was that you shouldnt have to clean anything up and thats when you know theyll crack it.

Its just not connecting in her little mind , that if she is finding it upsetting to have it go down her legs and all over her excema and little cuts, which is hurting, to then go in the potty!

I just need some assurance that Im doing the right thing by following her lead. I cant force it on her, despite nursury thinking shes ready?

Ill have to try again in the summer holidays though,(unless it happens naturlly before then or half term) ,in readyness for her school nursury.

oops thats about toilet training by the way!!

I personally would swallow the anger and keep going. The first few days are generally hell however old they are.

It isn't a fight or something that will happen naturally IMO, it is a learning process. She will get it - and possibly even quicker since it actually is hurting her legs when it goes down her. (I know )

It was so much easier with dd1 by day 3 she was going on the toilet and telling me when she needed to go , shes was a very different child though and I shouldnt compare , but its my frame of reference. Nowhere near as spirited and wilful as dd2 who's making throw out all preconceptions of behaviour! Dd2 doesn't seem to have a concept of when she needs to go at all. It still and unconscious action.

My 2nd little minxy moo is a much tougher cookie and is literally shouting and screaming when I lift her onto the potty or try and keep her on the toilet.

Ive been using all sorts of persuasive tactics , like chocolate, whcih she refused , but when shes asked for something Ive said she can have it if she comes and sits on the toilet.

I wonder if it's worth persevering if she is so antagonistic to the idea of sitting on the toilet. If they feel it is a grown-up privilege to use the loo, with rewards as well, then they are in a better place to succeed.

And every child is different - I expected DD to do what DS1 did and it really didn't work until a fair bit later.

hey melsy.

ds1 (yep, i have another now ) is potty training and it's a sloooow process to say the least.

he took the best part of a week to learn how to pee on demand when i put him on the loo, i'm in the process of trying to make him understand the sensation of needing to go now and it's starting to register. we haven't had a single poo in the loo either. but he is grasping it slowly but surely.

like you i wasn't sure if he was ready but desperately want him to start playschool, and he wants to as well so thought i'd give it a go and see how we went.

i'm taking a very differant approach than with dd, much more relaxed and i'm using pull ups out of the house (no choice with 3 of them out and about... not exactly easy to get to a public loo most of the time and we don't all fit when i can find one!)

give her a fair chance... about a week or 2, without too much pressure and see if she's grasping it at all by the end of that.

chocolate bribary is a miracle worker too

Yes procrastinatingparent,I really thought playing the "dont you want to be like mummy and your sister & go to the toilet , all grown up" card would cut it. For some reason may be it all seems like to much bother for her now shes realise what it means!! I also thought her legs stinging from accidents would spur her on to go on the toilet.

The thing is shes always done everything when she wants to do it! From eating , to walking to talking and this may be is no different, shes very very stubborn character. Its why Im thinking she'll do it happily when shes in the frame of mind to not wear nappies anymore and go of her own accord.

arghhhhhhhhhhhhh

helloo PT and hiya ds1! Woooo hasnt time flown by!

Thing is shes back at nursury from Monday , so not sure how to go forward right now. Theyve been happy so far with nappies as she was so young.

Im also thinking pull ups during outings ,esp today as have to go and try on some rather lovely dresses for my sisters engagment party!