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Anyone had to deal with older child being jealous of baby sleeping in parent's room?

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SpaceTrain · 14/04/2009 08:41

Our new baby is due shortly and our DD (3) is asking us why the baby is allowed to sleep in our room and she isn't.
I am inclined to let her sleep in our room too when the baby arrives, in the hope that the constant crying will make her realise that her room is the better option! Otherwise it will feellike we are excluding her.

Has anyone faced this challenge before? And if so, how did you deal with it?

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greatwhiteshark · 14/04/2009 08:45

We didn't have it because we just let our DD1 stay in our room as long as we wanted. We were very worried she'd feel excluded and we also felt it would be very unkind to make her sleep alone when everyone else in the family were cuddled up together!

EachPeachPearMum · 14/04/2009 08:58

Some people on here recommended making a bed on the floor, maybe with a sleeping bag, for the older one... but in the end it wasn't an issue for us...dd likes her sleep too much, and ds is too noisy

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SpaceTrain · 14/04/2009 09:36

Thanks for the replies (and I love your name Sharky).

I think we'll go with what we were planning to do, of letting her sleep in our room if she wants (though there isn't enough room to put a separate bed on the floor - she will need to be in with us). Then she won't feel excluded. But I think she will want her own room pretty quickly!

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coochicoo · 14/04/2009 12:50

Same as greatwhiteshark. dd sleeps in a bedside cot and ds (3) usually comes in at some point during the night and snuggles in between me and dh.

It's not something that's an issue for us.

LuP · 14/04/2009 12:54

DD is 3 1/2 and DS now 3 months. We explained to DD that DS was only in with us as he didn't know how to sleep on his own and that very soon he'd be in a cot in our room then in his own room when he was big enough. We did have a few midnight visits but she either came into our bed or went back to hers (slightly under duress). I think the fact that DH was in the spare room sometimes helped as then she wasn't the only one not in our room. It only lasted a week or two then she wasn't remotely bothere.

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Bleatblurt · 14/04/2009 13:20

My eldest( now 4.5) became jealous once his little brother arrived so I let him sleep in the bed with me - 16 months later he's still there! I keep asking him if he wants to go back to his room (and bribing him with a fancy new bed) but he's having none of it. I don't mind at all really, just hoping he'll change his mind before his teens

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