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I think I am about bto be a 'bad' parent but for all the right (if selfish) reasons

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KatyMac · 13/04/2009 22:34

DD wants to go to guide camp twice in the summer - but the second week is the same week as our family holiday

I initially said yes - but I am having a change of heart & I don't want to go away with out her & I will miss her & we shouldn't be out of the country while she is on camp & I think she will regret not going on holiday with us

& basically I don't want her to go

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KatyMac · 13/04/2009 23:07

I'm being silly aren't I?

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SlartyBartFastlaidanegg · 13/04/2009 23:08

stick to you guns katy!!
she will get over it

thumbbunny · 13/04/2009 23:10

no you aren't being silly. she should be happy that you want her there and she's going to have had one week at Guide Camp already anyway so she's getting the best of both worlds.

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KatyMac · 13/04/2009 23:11

I think I'm being a wuss

I shouldn't be worried

My Mum & Dad are just down the road

But I am scared & silly

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frasersmummy · 13/04/2009 23:14

I dont think you are silly at all Katy

Its one thing being at guide camp while you are at home. What if she gets sick or sprains an ankle and wants to come home??

I know from your previous posts you are sensible and would obv make arrangements for her to be cared for if she had to come home before you. I just mean you would never forgive yourself for not being there if she needed a cuddle

And a family holiday without her wouldnt be a family holiday would it

I'm with you .. send her to camp once...

KatyMac · 13/04/2009 23:18

Dh & I were planning a super cheap holiday in the sun

But we won't do that with DD (as we are much more careful with her than we are with ourselves)

So back to the drawing board for our holiday

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elfinblast · 14/04/2009 01:15

Having been a guide myself I went on a few camps, none more than an hour or so from home, and I had an absolute riot!

I honestly appreciate your reasons for wanting her with you while you go away, but try and look at it another way. She will be supervised and with her friends learning stuff (I still say I learned more from guides than school) and if anything does go wrong your parents are nearby.

Anyway, she may hate her first week and not want to go for the second camp, or your holiday itinerary may be so brilliant she decides not to go anyway.

If she's in Guides then she must be at least 11, so give her a chance to make a choice.

I don't know if she is your only child or if you have more.
If she is an only one then grab the opportunity to have a child free holiday.
If you have other children, then it might be difficult to leave one behind, but it is only a week.

When I went to guide camp there was no such thing as a mobile phone. I walked nearly a mile to the phone box to ring my mum to say I was alright (and reversed the charges ) You can have a direct line to the guiders and your daughter.

I really don't think you are being silly. You are only worrying as a responsible parent would.

But If she really wants to go on the camp and you insist she comes with you, are you prepared for the week long sulk?

Tortington · 14/04/2009 01:22

i thnk if she is going twice i would expect her to come on the family holiday ( unless lifes easier without her? )

she gets the guide and the family holiday

she isn't missing out

i wouldnt be partic afraid for the wuss reasons you state.

but i would check the legalities of being out of the country with the guides - if you let her do the second camp - which i wouldnt - my kids come with - family holidays have memories of their own don't forget.

gigglewitch · 14/04/2009 01:31

As a kid I also had to be got from guide camp a day early to go on the family hols - heavens I had a ball with two consecutive holidays

In your shoes I would also be a Wuss and let her do the first week of guide camp and then go on the family holidays - as you want her to - the sentiment might not last many more years

frasersmummy · 14/04/2009 08:33

katy

As a guider of more years than I care to admit

There are no legal probs with you being away on holiday when dd is at guide camp

so long as guiders are aware and know who to contact in an emegency.They would (if they had to) had your daughter over to her grandparents

If your dd had to leave camp I would expect the guider in charge to contact you straight after the event to discuss things with you.

KatyMac · 14/04/2009 23:03

DH is trying to persuade me to let her go

I feel all funny about it tbh - I think we will go to southwold as i can't see me being happy going abroad

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Supercherry · 15/04/2009 20:07

I half agree with what everyone is saying but on the other hand I don't think it's fair to have initially agreed then go back on your word. Because of this I wouldn't force her to come on hols with you but you could try to persuade her to change her mind. Is there anywhere you know she would love to go?

KatyMac · 15/04/2009 21:45

That's why I probably won't insist

But I want to

If I could afford to tempt her with Jamaica, I'd win......but no chance

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