Potty training my stubborn 4yo

[Pitchounette]

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How about having Toilet Time - a specific time each day when he is to sit on the loo. Let him take something(s) to play with while sitting on the loo - favourite toy cars, book that sort of thing.

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I don't know but we have the same problem. Dd, 4 in July, school in Sep. I'[m worried about school as the problems start after lunch generally with soiling due to constipation. She's on movicol but it's becoming less effective. We've got suppositories - did one but it won't be so easy to do the next one

She is also resistant to doing anything she doesn't want to do no matter waht the consequences. She's not naughty - but immensely stubborn. She sat on the potty for hours today - no poo. So you are ahead of us there! I put a nappy on in the late afternoon in desperation (we usually have one toward bedtime) and imediately there is a modest poo.

We've been PT since last summer. I dread school. I don't want her to soil and be smelly. I'm also at a loss what to do about it.

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DS has had this for a couple of years. He started nursery a couple of weeks before Easter. As with the rest of you, his probs are in the PM so I managed to get him a morning nursery place which minimises the issue at nursery.

We have another year before he starts school but the headteacher is applying for an auxiliary for when he starts school (assuming the problem is still there). If the application is successful, there will be someone on hand to clean the soiling or calm him when he's at a bad point in the cycle and becoming distressed as he holds it in. (screaming and crying as he stands poker straight, clinging onto the table)
Supposedly it's all money tho - if the council can't afford it then no auxiliary!

I mentioned a good book in another thread about this yesterday btw if you haven't seen it!

Try older kids. They can be role models or they can be horribly cruel - but it very often works. Either your child wants to copy them, or your child is embarrased into using the toilet properly. Do you have any 5-6 year old/school age (obv toilet trained) cousins, neighbours children yours can spend a lot of time with over the last week of the holidays? (Do you anyone that works could do with some help with childcare while they're off next week?) If not he'll VERY soon get in the swing of it once at school.

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Pitchounette, he covers the whole physical side of it to start with and then moves onto strategies to deal with it. Afraid I've lent it to my SIL (who's a gp and wanted to learn more about it as loads of them haven't treated it) so can't check just now I'm afraid.

Mainly, to be honest, he reassures that they will grow out of it and medication is absolutely incredibly important to maintain for the duration and for a long time afterwards. Some of his ideas are worth a shot though and it leaves you with a much better understanding of the problem.

That was supposed to be a smile and not a grin btw

no solutions really but just to give you hope - my dd was exactly like this. Constipation issues. Perfect control but would only poo in a nappy. When in morning nursery would poo every lunchtime. I too worried and tried everything. Nothing worked, we both ended up stressed. So I left it and it just happened ie she started to use the loo - in the april/may before she started reception just as she turned four.

Had a look at that link too - think we need that book!

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