Tell me about seperation anxiety!

[mishkamoo]

DS is 6m and has just started getting upset when anyone other then DH or me picks him up, and when I leave the room. Is this classic age for this? I'm worried it's my fault for being too precious with him, and not letting other people hold him enough? Is there anything I can do, or do I just have to go with it until he comes out of the other side?

No advice, but sympathies! my dd is 8 months and sometimes i cant let her derriere touch the floor all day (hard going when shes 24lb), everytime she senses shes getting put down, a bloodcurdling scream comes out. This started at 6 ish months, although she never let me leave the room really without crying since she was very young. It maybe because hes teething and wants comfort off you, or he just doesnt like being apart from you or dp. My dd wont go to anyone new at all, and has to give tham a good look over before she even starts to smile, but will happily go to her grannies but thats about it. Apparently though its a phase, and health visitor just told me to go with it. I just take her everywhere with me now, she even comes to the toilet! tmi i know...

yes it is a classic age for seperation anxiety and it is normal for your lo to act like this. See here

Hi,
My DS is 9 months and started to be very anxious from very early - maybe three months plus and my MIL told me endlessly that it as because I was overprotective!!

I am certain it is serperation anxiety, he shows all the signs and he finally seems to be getting over it now - he is 9 months next week.

He still ets very upset or overwhelmed by large numbers of people or people who are particularly 'in his face'. Must admit that I feel it is karma that he screams his head off evertime my MIL comes near him - doesn't help that she insists on sticking her face right up to his and will pursue him even when he turns his face away!!!!!! Grrrrrr.

Anyway, all I would say is that it can be very tough but lo will come out of it in time and it is nothing to do with whether you let other people hold your baby.

Thanks for the advice and reassurance. What is it with MILs-mine is the same!!!

My MIL is the same - booms in her face about being bestest girl etc etc, and is really full on, then wonders why dd scrags all her face in a upset. Im not overprotective at all, as long as i can have a cup of tea in peace, hold away, but mine still has this anxiety, so i dont think it could be too much of a factor.