My OH is always calling DD 'chubby''chunky' and other 'cute' works for fat, says 'big bum' etc to her. He is being kind and loving but constantly showers her in what I would call negative body judgements. In contrast as a term of abuse he will call someone 'fat'. One day DD will realise that chubby & fat have very similar meanings.
I think he is sending a conflicting message to a young baby who worships him and soaks up every word. I'm aware that young girls these days even struggle with weight issues and anorexia and bullemia strike younger and younger.
I would prefer that OH didn't use language like this with DD - he needs to stick to more body neutral language to express himself, but he thinks I'm picking on him and not letting him be himself.
As a teenager and an adult I have struggled with my own weight. I remember vividly my Mum saying I had a fat bum aged 13. I didn't at all - I had a gorgeous figure, but I soon piled on the weight & became the fat person she saw in me.
I really don't want DD to be plagued with any unnecessary body issues or pressure to look one way or another - she will get plenty of messages from the media without them having to originate within her family. And I feel that OH needs to just modify his language a little.
Am I being bonkers? Is anyone else concerned about this kind of language in the home?