Bad mother day. Could cry.

[frazzledgirl]

In fact, am crying.

DS (20 months) has had a very whiny week with at least one small-hours wake-up most nights. Have had five hours' sleep for both of the last two nights.

DS has been throwing his toys about today. Hit me and really hurt me with one of them. DH told him to apologise, cue hour-long screaming fit which got worse whenever i pick him up as he hollers for Daddy. He pinched my neck when I tried to cuddle him and start again.

In the middle of trying to dress him while he screamed at me, DH came in to say our new washing machine had broken - after less than two months, with a load of dirty nappies mid-cycle. DS still screeching at this point so I hiss-shouted SHUT UP at him.

DH has taken DS away for an hour to give me a chance to calm down. Feel like a sh*tty parent who can't control her temper, where DH can.

We were supposed to be going to the farm for the afternoon, followed by nice walk and coffee and then DH off to pub to watch his team play (his Sunday treat). Now they're gone, he may miss match, I'm at home feeling like shit.

Sympathy

This is a horrible feeling but you have done nothing wrong, everyone has their limits and kids push you

Go easy on yourself

PS Try and go to the farm anyway even if the trip has to be a bit shorter. Maybe DH could see the second half of the match?

Don't worry, we all have bad days.

On the washing machine front - have you checked the filter?

Some days are great and some days are shit, you have done nothing wrong and have not failed in any way!!! In fact what was dh DOING by telling you about the washing machine when you clearly had your hands full with grumpy pinchy ds? Men!!! Don't feel bad for resorting to "shut up", it's not that bad, it was a reaction, and chances are you won't do it again because you'll be watching out for yourself next time!

It's OK, they've gone out which is great. It won't hurt dh to miss his footy for one day, a bit of parenting by him and some tlc for Mummy are required to help rescue the day.

Don't forget too that you are short on sleep, and therefore not expected to be Bouncy Perky Coping Mummy At All Times!

Don't worry, write off today and tomorrow will be better

I think your reaction was totaly justified and normal under the circumstances .Not sure i'd have been so restrained tbh .Don't feel guilty Dh obviously needed it spelling out to him that you needed a bit of time out and this is the up shot.
Now stop worrying and do something to take your mind of it .When they come back say to DH you're sorry for snapping and thanks for taking LO off for a while as you're feeling much calmer now (hopefully you will be by then).

Thank your DH with lots of kisses & a cuddle.
It's worth remembering the days like this on why you married your DH. Your DS is his son too! have a nap and a nice walk. Always remember your son is not in a tent in a refugee camp with no food. That works for me.
If he needs a few mins in the corner until you calm down it will do you both good. It works for me. Don't cuddle when he has been naughty. He needs to know that you are his lovely Mummy and he needs to be kind to you too! We taught our boy at first to be kind to the cat & granny then realised he could be kind to us too!

Thank you wells up again because of everyone being undeservedly nice

Should possibly also confess to being a tiny bit sweary around DS today. Am a potty mouth but trying v hard to control it round fairly bright-seeming child who copies everything we say. Rigidly enforce same with DH. Prolly should not have described son and heir to DH as being a whiny little sh*t.

Am not going to do it again. I hope. I just feel so tired and so defeated.

DH is always fab with DS, BTW, I never have to remind him or ask him to do anything. He's v equal with it all. Possibly could have waited till I came back from dressing the little ratbag though, I agree.

Sigh. May do the hoovering and then beetle off and make cakes for them. They like cakes.

Yes! Make cakes! It will make you feel better and they will see that you are trying to find a better mood! A lot of problems can be solved with a large plate or toast or a cake.

Indeed they can. Or a large slab of Dairy Milk Fruit & Nut or Apricot Crumble Crunch dribbles and curses diet

Experimental healthy oatmeal and raisin cookies will just have to do, but I fear they may not hit the spot in quite the same way.

BTW they just got back in. DS immediately threw book and started yelling, but have sent DH to the pub anyway. DS came over and shook hands (was quite funny) and then gave me a hug and kiss on request. So we're back on speakers at least.

Hope today goes well.

I hope so too but the signs aren't good - DS woke up at 3am and was awake for next 2 hours.

This included an hour in our bed, although DH took him away after I'd told him to lie down, stop kicking and stop TALKING for the third time.

Have effectively been awake since 3am. Suspect I may die of tired in the course of today.

DS on fine form at home with my mum, of course, and I am at work (and giddy about it; wd far rather be at work than caring for toddler in this state. Does this make me a bad even worse mummy?)

No, Sweet heart. We went through the same thing Ds climbing on our heads at 3am. It is just something that happens with toddlers. Work will give you a well deserved mental break. In ye old days you would have left him with family to get on with house work or go to work too!
Remember you will do him no favours if you make him the centre of everything. He'll just be a spoilt brat honest! That's all that brewhahah, teachers complaining that children are not being socialised. Part of that is to learn, even at his tender age that there are other people in the world and they need their sleep to put food on the table honest!