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DSD just deliberately hurt DD, so upset

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ElenorRigby · 04/04/2009 19:41

Please I need someone to calm me down. DP has tried too.
About 1/2 an hour ago the girls were out playing in the garden. DSD is 6 but a big 6 she wears 9yo clothes, DD is 19 months old.
DSD and DD have always adored eachother, seriously they get on so well.
I had given the girls chalk to play scribbling with they were having a lovely game. I wrote "DD loves DSD" on a wall. DSD wrote"DSD loves DD"
I had to do stuff so DP was watching from the kitchen window.
DSD pulled DD over leaving her screaming. I heard her from upstairs and came running, DP told me what DSD had done.
Im so upset and angry, I wouldnt have thought DSD would have hurt DD.
Sorry Im just a bit shocked. I know I need to calm down.

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RealityIsMyOnlyChocolateEgg · 04/04/2009 19:42

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CarGirl · 04/04/2009 19:45

if they were full siblings there probably could have been a full on attack involving heavy toy thwacked onto babies head, or indeed biting. Siblings to fight and it does get violent regardless of ages IME

Disenchantegg3 · 04/04/2009 19:47

Sorry but chill, shes a kid.

Kids fight.

Siblings fight.

Don't make it out to be bigger than what it is.

littleducks · 04/04/2009 19:47

The only thing that shocks me in your post is that this hasnt happened before

Presumerably as a stepdaughter dsd is not there 24/7 so perhaps that is why it hasnt happened before but siblings do argue and it does get rough occassionally

Obv you still have to teach them it isnt ok but i really wouldnt worry about it, im sure the both do love each other

Geepers · 04/04/2009 19:49

Hardly the end of the world is it? My children do this to each other every day, and worse. I suspect this is a PFB moment for you. Your DSD being teh size of a 9 year old doesn't mean she will be any nicer to her sibling.

Guadalupe · 04/04/2009 19:50

Well, my dd is seven and she's been known to give ds2 a quick whack/poke or ooh look he's hurt himself again while no-one's looking.

Obviously she needs to be told not to do it but it's not that unusual and six is still qute young.

choufleur · 04/04/2009 19:52

kids are often not that nice to each other. six is not that mature, she's still learning stuff too

HecAteTheEasterBunny · 04/04/2009 19:53

yup. sounds like siblings to me too. a chat about it not being right to be rough with someone so much littler than you is in order.

BeehiveBaby · 04/04/2009 19:55

B**y hell, I would come down like a ton of bricks on any child who hurt a younger one and do so with DD1 (3.7) .

Mumcentreplus · 04/04/2009 19:57

don't worry..at least no weapons were involved!....just a little chat with her should do the trick

Wallace · 04/04/2009 19:59

Did dd scribble on something dsd had drawn by any chance?

CarGirl · 04/04/2009 19:59

I do come down on my dc with a tonne of bricks but they still have occasionally tried it on though!

JackBauerKilledTheEasterBunny · 04/04/2009 20:01

Agree it's totally normal, if anything it could be viewed as being good as your DSD and DD's are acting like full siblings, not half siblings.
When I was 7 and DBro was 1 I pushed him down a 3 step flight of concrete steps, just to see what would happen (He bounced)
But, in my defence, I was 7

Original poster
ElenorRigby · 05/04/2009 07:13

Thanks for the replies. I knew I was over reacting hence my post.
I guess it does show how well they get on together given we have not seen this happen before.
DSD's reason for pulling DD over..."she was being annoying" DP calmly told DSD "DD is often annoying but that doesn't mean we should hurt her does it?"
I know it must be hard for DSD to be kind to DD sometimes. DD is in that toddler stage of pushing, pinching and hitting at the moment.

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SofiaAmes · 05/04/2009 07:57

Also, maybe this is not the case, but how often do you leave dsd to play with dd. A 6 year old shouldn't be expected to be happy playing with an 19month old on a regular basis as her main companion.

PS My dd and ds are 6 and 8 respectively and they are best friends and have inflicted visible injuries on each other at various points in time. It's really normal sibling behavior.

maddylou · 05/04/2009 08:19

Siblings can be horrible to each other and lovely to everyone else-its normal if annoying.

CrushWithEyeliner · 05/04/2009 08:29

I agree with Sofia - you shouldn't have left them alone. Having said this I would be v upset with an older child who did this to a baby.

psychomum5 · 05/04/2009 10:30

normal loving behaviour with siblings

and why shouldn;t they be alone with each other?? how the hell do parents of several children and a baby get on with stuff if you think they should not be left alone ??

littleducks · 05/04/2009 10:43

they shouldnt have been left alone?

i think thats crazy, a six year old shouldnt have to babysit a younger sibling and should be able to say dsis is annoying me can you keep an eye on her but why on earth cant they be left alone?

it sounds as though op's dh was supervising enough to see the incident even if it was out the corner of hios eye that is fine

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ElenorRigby · 05/04/2009 11:37

They were not alone their dad was supervising

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Uriel · 05/04/2009 12:18

But you've said - DD is in that toddler stage of pushing, pinching and hitting at the moment. So, presumably, DD's hurt DSD on more than one occasion and this is the first time she's done something back?

DSD sounds like a nice little girl and maybe DD needs a little more supervision?

PinkTulips · 05/04/2009 12:45

wow... you got to 19 months with never a single incident [doffs cap]

seriously though, that's unreal, and probably explains why you ARE COMPLETELY OVERREACTING!!!!!

get over it and expect it to happen again, especially as your dd is getting to that annoying toddler age that tends to drive older siblings (and parents for that matter) around the twist.

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