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If you made a deliberate decision to have 3 children how is it?

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headinclouds · 02/04/2009 22:12

as a follow on from the really interesting (thanks concordia) thread re: stopping at 2 children, for those who went on and had 3 how is it?

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pageturner · 02/04/2009 22:12

It's lovely!

buttercreamfrosting · 02/04/2009 22:16

Perfect..

Grapes2 · 02/04/2009 22:21

I've found it really hard! It must vary person to person, but I had a difficult pregnacy, and although my dd3 is georgous, the happy hormones haven't kicked in quite so well as after dd2. In fact it has felt more like becoming a first time mum...rather daunting. Of course it all depends on the child too... my ds1 didn't feed well (and lets face it, the first 3 months are all about the feeding), but my dd2 fed really well. She was a really easy baby and made me feel like a competent mum. Dd3 is great, but didn't feed well either. So having thought I'd cracked the baby thing, I found I hadn't! Bath and bedtime was scarily hard for the first 6 months. It is getting easier now...but it is just hard work.

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AlexandraPeppernose · 03/04/2009 15:00

Amazingly fantastic but I'm only 4 days in

Fennel · 03/04/2009 15:03

These days, it's lovely. They all play together, amuse each other, it's a lovely family dynamic.

4 years ago with 3 under 5, it was a bit too much like hard work.

ChippyMinton · 03/04/2009 15:03

It's fine, but then again, I don't really know any different, as my three are very close together.

PinkTulips · 03/04/2009 15:31

three of 4 and under and i love it

ds2 is almost 8 weeks old now and he's fitted in fantastically and the others love him to bits. was in the supermarket today and some daft old woman behind me was saying 'who'd a good boy, who's a good boy?' to ds1 (i did not know anyone actually said that!) and he pointed at ds2 and said 'aaron baby!' with a big grin

bedtime is a bit mad as ds2 inevitably gets whingy and cross the one time of the day i simply have to put him down to deal with dd and ds1 but he sleeps well and is smiley and happy so i forgive him.... from exeriance all that gets easier as they get older so not too worried.

i've enjoyed him so much more than dd or ds1, the experiance as a parent and the knowledge that he's my last has made me so relaxed and i'm really savouring these baby days

go for it... you won't regret it

PlumBumMum · 03/04/2009 15:36

no 3 has made such a difference in our house, can't describe it, shes such a character, but sometimes I feel a bit dizzy trying to keep an eye on all 3 when have them out shopping etc on my own, but don't know weither thats because dc3 is mad, and so unlike the other 2 at that age,

Are you thinking of 3 go for it, it can't be that bad we're thinking of 4

madwomanintheattic · 03/04/2009 15:46

lol @ fennel. i so know what you mean.

at 9,7,5 i'm a lot calmer than i was a few years back...

but dd2 (dc3) has some issues, so life's a bit more complicated than anticipated lol. suffice to say that 3 weeks after her birth dh went to book his vasectomy. wouldn't be without her, but the level of chaos at the time didn't need adding to

of course, 5 years on, i'm beyond broody, and would happily have more if i could collect them rather than grow them myself...

Northernlurker · 03/04/2009 16:03

It's lovely. It has it's moments - dd3 is a very strong willed toddler and that causes some strife with her big sisters on occasion - but show me a family that doesn't have some strife every now and then?

Seeing the three of them working as a gang is just wonderful and I've really, really enjoyed doing the baby thing again. Three is enough for me though!

PinkTulips · 03/04/2009 16:13

oh yes.... dp is heading of to the docs next wek to arrange vasectomy.... 3 is great, but it's also enough

FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 03/04/2009 16:15

wellllllllllll...........
I found it bloody hard work and still find it hard at times now...although ys and ms are starting to play together more now....so, hopefully the only way is up....

would I have gone for 3 had I known it would be so different to having 2....probably not...however...of course I love them all and would not wish any of them away...

sweetkitty · 03/04/2009 16:15

I have 3 DDS aged 4 3, and 8 months. So far it's hard hard work but great. DD3 is a complete and utter joy and I am so enjoying her baby stage this time around, we cannot imagine being without her now.

But babies are easy it's once they turn into toddlers the fun begins.

FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 03/04/2009 16:39

....sweetkitty...I would say it depends on the Baby if it is easy or not.....my ys was a utter nightmare...screaming pretty much non-stop...he drove me to distruction....however, out ogf my 3 boys he is actually the gentlest and easiest now...

DanJARMouse · 03/04/2009 16:46

3 under 5 at the moment and yes its hard work, but i love it

I am looking forward to when they are all at school though as it is bloody manic at times

BlueCowWondersWhenItsChocTime · 03/04/2009 16:50

manic, hard, guilt-ridden etc etc But lovely as well, esp as they grow up a bit.

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BlueCowWondersWhenItsChocTime · 03/04/2009 16:51

(so why would you outnumber you and dh?!)

Fennel · 03/04/2009 16:53

Mine are 9, 7, 4. Dd3 has just started school. It does feel decidedly calm lately.

Fennel · 03/04/2009 16:55

See, you have to have had 3 under 5 to appreciate the relative calm of 3 over 5

It still looks manic and shouty to the outside observer but we think it's calm now.

angrypixie · 03/04/2009 17:05

I love it.

3 is an odd number, untidy, chaotic and just perfect for a family.

I found the change from 0 - 1 child much harder than 1-2 or 2-3.

sweetkitty · 03/04/2009 17:09

Thats true Fairlady, in my case the difficult baby turned into the difficult toddler, maybe that's why DD3 seems so easy now.

Momma23 · 03/04/2009 17:13

Hard bloody work
House is a mess, i on the outside look like a mess But my house is a home, i have 3 beautifull kids, I am happy, DP is happy.

DD1 is 3
DD2 is 2
DD3 is 8months

PetitFilou1 · 03/04/2009 19:34

Hard. The laundry mountain is never ending and I find it impossible to get time for myself. However, I have them close together (they are 5, 3.5 and 7 months) and I have a dh who is away a lot. However, I love them all and ds2 is the calmest, happiest baby. And I'm now done with having babies and feel completely at ease with that whereas before I hungered for another child. I know it will get easier after a year....

My advice is stop talking about it and get on with it. If you are talking about it, you want to do it (usually) but are just a bit scared!

DiamondHead · 03/04/2009 19:47

I've had 3 under 5. DC3 is 18 months in now and it's still hard work.
It's reassuring hearing people say that it will calm down in a few years.

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