My ds doesn't seem to be able to play with more than one child

[worzil]

Hi
I don,t know whether other parents have found this to be the case with their dc's but my ds who is 8 never seems to be able to get on with others when there is more than one of them playing with him.
There seems to be nothing but arguments about what they want to play with my ds saying he doesn,t want to play their stupid games all of the time and that whenever he suggests a game nobody will play it but they will always play a game one of the others suggests.
He is quite a sensitive boy who can be easily upset and I think he maybe has some problems finding his position in a group and whenever they fall out it always seems to be my ds who ends up on his own not that it seems to bother him.
He plays great with just one friend together on their own without any problems so does seem better on a one to one.
Today I have had problems again there is two brothers at the top of our road who he occasionally plays with and there is also a girl next door to them who sometimes plays also making it the four of them however it ended with my ds and one of the brothers wanting to come into my house and play on the wii and the other two standing constantly ringing my doorbell shouting for the brother to come out and play with them.
In the end they all had to go in anyway.
Should I just stick with having a mate home from school for my ds to avoid this sort of commotion all of the time as I am sick of it.
I have tried to explain to my ds that there doesn have to be give and take within group play and it can,t always be his games that they play but I am unsure as to who really is at fault anyway when they fall out like this.

Is he an only child? It sounds to me as if he is, so that he isn't used to the constant squabbling and compromises of siblings. I would keep inviting one friend home but would also leave him exposed to group situations.

My DS has this problem too
When there are 2 of them- any two- he is fine, but as soon as a 3rd child arrives he is like a dog with 2 tails, but not in a good way, head going wildly side to side and no idea who to play with and just ends up sulking. I suspect mine is younger than yours tho- he is just 4

He is an only child and I have been wondering if thats the problem I am at a loss on what to do about it.
I just want to see him getting on well with people and to have lots of friends.I know that children will always fall out but I see this as an ongoing problem with my ds whenever he gets in with more than one child.
I know that he has problems finding his position in a group and he is a a bit of a stubborn so and so when it comes to what he wants to play, but I have found that other children can also be little nasty beasts towards him which has been a bit uncalled for at times.
I have tried to explain to him that he has to respect what others may want to do and rather than go into a strop he should try and suggest solutions instead.

I think if they have siblings they get used to arguing and not getting their own way and they can't avoid them! I think that with an only, you just have to work at it a bit harder-perhaps it would help to have something like cubs where you have to work as a team and can't stomp off home.