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DD had a really awful accident and I feel really shaky and panicy now...

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CrushWithEyeliner · 27/03/2009 13:12

It was one of those accidents that it was a miracle she was not really seriously hurt. Spent the morning in A&E and she is fine.
I keep going over it in my mind again and again and I can't understand what prevented her from...well I am not going to say it

I feel like such an utterly shit Mother. What kind of fool lets go of a pram on a wet step to get something? The breaks were on at least but...Honestly, to myself I was so not on the ball. I keep getting flashbacks of lifting the buggy and not knowing what she was going to look like.

I know there isn't much anyone can do or say - I guess I need to get it down. I was just holding her all day thinking how fragile and precious she is and how her life is in my hands. What a responsibility and I let her down big time.

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WhoTookMyMemoryStick · 27/03/2009 16:35

It took my third child to show me that our wheelie baby-walker would actually fit through our odd-sized kitchen door and fall down 4 steps onto a flagstone floor.

Accidents are just horrid aren't they?

sweetkitty · 27/03/2009 16:36

Oh poor you

Here's mine, PFB DD1 rolled off bed and sofa

DD2 - thought DP was behind me and left the baby gate open she fell down the stairs, she was fine I was not

DD3 only 8 months so time yet for her moment

sweetkitty · 27/03/2009 16:37

BFs DD was in one of those rocker things bounced in out the living room, across the kitchen and down the kitchen steps, needed stitches friend was a complete state

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CrushWithEyeliner · 27/03/2009 17:14

These stories -though awful- are making me feel better...
God, what makes babies incredibly survive these accidents?

I have had about 10 teas with sugar and am feeling less panicy now but still can't get the image of the blood in her mouth out of my head - it turns out it was from a small cut -the only injury- inside her mouth but looked like loads. I thought she had lost teeth...it was just the shock of it that I need to process...I am feeling better now though xx

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TheGashlycrumbTinies · 27/03/2009 17:26

When DD1 was 12 weeks, I had foolishly put a stack of magazines half way up the stairs. DH was carrying her down, his feet went from underneath, DD up in the air and then proceeded to roll down each stair, whilst DH lay at the bottom. I was watching from the landing in slow motion.

She was such a dot, only about 8lbs by then, me and DH were in floods, took her to A&E felt like total twits.

You are in good company, luckily babies do tend to bounce.

Give her cuuddles, and get someone to give you a cuddle.

dilemma456 · 27/03/2009 18:18

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steviesgirl · 28/03/2009 00:52

My dd slipped in the bath when I was bathing her when she was about 4 months old. The soapy water made me lose my grip and her head partially went under the water! Luckily my lightening reactions saved her. Scared the life out of me though and I was nervous for days after.

When she was a bit older I overloaded her buggy with bags and it tipped backwards with her in it! She was fine but I felt terribly guilty for putting too many bags on the handles.

When she just turned two she rolled off my bed and banged her head. She ended up vomitting several hrs later and was in hospital overnight for observation. A few months after that she was climbing on the garden bench and she fell off it backwards and banged her head on bloody concrete! I was terrified. Miraculously her head wasn't even marked and no concussion. I swear she has a guardian angel. (And it's not me)!!
Don't worry. EVERY one of us has had something happen. Accidents happen. Don't beat yourself up.

kissmummy · 28/03/2009 16:21

i had a dreadful near miss a few months ago which still makes my blood run cold just thinking about it.
had made a rare trip into central London on the tube to take DS (then about 15 months) to a health clinic. we never travel into town or get the tube which i have always thought was full of dangers for us.
i got on the wrong train and was in a fluster. somehow as we got off i misjudged the gap between the train and the platform. the puschair toppled over into the gap, to the collective horror of all the passengers. i am happy to say several people leapt to their feet to help. VERY luckily i had strapped baby in really tight (lucky because i don't always because he hates it) and i was able to pull the whole thing up and out of danger in a micro second, but it felt like an age went by. in that micro second the horror was unimaginable and i still get visions of him falling down between the train and the platform and being crushed to death. i won't ever forget it or make that mistake again.

cornsilk · 28/03/2009 16:24

Just seen this crush. I've had near misses with my ds's also. Hope you're feeling a bit less shaky today.

misdee · 28/03/2009 16:59

when dd3 had her incident with a door last summer, i was afraid to look as was convincved she had lost her fingers. (dont look at my profile if your squesmish at all).

i aso still feeel shakey if i recall the time i lifted dd2 over the stairgate at my kkitchen door, and i could feel myself falling forward and then landed on top of the gate on top of dd2. i was in a terrible state, and dh had to calm me down. i insisted that dd2 was checked at a+e as was sure she must be hurt after having 3stone me land on top of her, whlst she was pinned by the safety gate

uptomyeyes · 28/03/2009 17:08

2004, DS2 was about 21 months - we were on holiday in france in a villa with friends. Friends unlock the pool gate for their 9 year old to go for a swim. DS2 slips in behind her and jumped in the pool. No adults poolside, we heard the cries of the 9 year old as she held DS2's head about water. She got a blue peter gold badge for saving his life, I've got a lifetime terror of my boys drowning.

uptomyeyes · 28/03/2009 17:09

DS3 has a very cool scar down his lower lip where he slipped down the slide ladder and split his lip into two -literally.

elvislives · 28/03/2009 17:31

My DS2 fell out of the car aged 2, on a roundabout. DH kept driving with me screaming at him to stop. I didn't know what I was going to see when I got out of the car and couldn't believe it when DS was standing in the road, unscathed, crying that his "shoe comed off". The car behind had stopped in time- heaven knows how.

Whipped him up to A&E and not a mark on him. An hour or so later, parked in a car park with DH sitting in the front seat and DS1 and DS2 sitting in the back (me and DD in a shop), DS1 pushed DS2 off the seat onto the metal seat runners and split his head open. I made DH take him back to A&E by himself. They were very

(This was 18 years ago.) We'd been without a car for months and were desperate to go out, so went out in our "new" ancient cortina that had no seatbelts. DS3 was in the front in his rear facing car seat and I was in the back with the children. We thought we'd put the child locks on. We didn't go out again until DH had put seat belts in the back

Northernlurker · 28/03/2009 17:53

Reading this thread is enough to make me hyperventilate!

Like all of you I have tales of narrow escapes and frantic trips to A&E. Accidents don't make you a bad parent. It's how you respond to them and learn from them that makes you a good one.

junkcollector · 28/03/2009 18:05

Your are not a crap mother. It happens to us all.

When DS1 was about 9 months old we were having lunch in the garden at my SILs. I left him in a booster seat attached to a chair while I went to collect something from the kitchen(STUPID!!). While I was away he kicked the table so hard his chair fell backwards onto the ground. He landed about 2 cms away from a tree that WOULD have broken his neck. He was a bit shocked but ok. He is 5 now and this story still makes me a bit wobbly.

Go easy on yourself and have a cup of tea

Ispy · 29/03/2009 13:46

Once when dd was in one of those baby swings at the park (she was 2.8) and attempting to climb out, I let go of her momentarily to pick up ds1 who was going to get hit by another swing as he was in front of it. When I let go of her she had no other option but to fall out of the swing and fell straight on her head. Cut her her mouth and head and got a huge goose-egg on her forehead. Spent the morning in ER. Still lie awake at times thinking about my stupidity.

ADealingMummy · 29/03/2009 21:45

My flashback

Saying goodbye to a good friend on the doorstep , my dd's little toddler hand was grasped trustingly in the small gap between sharp edge of door and the door post. There was a slight gust of wind , and the door began to close. Thank God I got to her in time, and everything was okay.

chocolatecremeegg · 29/03/2009 21:57

I forgot to strap ds into his pushchair, walked all round the shops without realising. He fell asleep, woke up and promptly fell head first straight onto a concrete pavement. Ran home (have never ran so fast in my life)and put a cold compress on his head to try and reduce the swelling (a trick learnt from his nursery!) but his head was still very sore. I think I must have had that flannel attached to his head for hours in an effort to reduce the swelling. Have never felt so scared in my life especially as people kept commenting on his head and asking how he'd done it... To this day the thought of it makes me shudder. I have never forgotten to strap him in since

Hope you are feeling better today crush and had a glass or two yesterday.

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