Should We stop trying for a baby for a while, to bennefit our daughter ?

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, I have a 4 year old daughter and we are trying for another baby. I've been on Clomid (fertility drug) for 4 months with out sucess. Anyway, I'll find out in a day or two if I'm pregnant. I don't think I am though.
If I am, the baby will be due in November. My daughter will be starting primary school in January.
I don't want her to start school and have a new sibling too close together, so I'm thinking of phoning up and delaying my treatment for a few months so she'll be settled in to school to make it easier for her.
What do you think?

A difficult one. I don't think I would delay ttc, we have trying for a while now and put it on hold before for various reasons. The problem is you just don't know when you are likely to conceive and if you put it on hold you could end up missing out. I would just go for it, the rest will sort itself out.

i agree with ForeverOptimistic

Thank you. I think you're right, I'd probubly be thinking, I could've been pregnant this month.

My daughter loves babys and toddlers, and always gives them a cuddle when she sees one. But when we go and visit anyone with a new baby, she acts like a baby herself. She lays on my husbands or my lap, sucking her thumb. That evening when we came home, she asked for a baby bottle of milk.
Si I'm not sure how she'll take a sibling.

My BF had a baby in December, and her dd started pre-school in January. It's been a godsend for them all, to be honest. Dd1 has felt like she has something that's all about her, i.e. school, and she goes off every day and has fun, and doesn't spend all afternoon getting upset with her mum for not being able to give her undivided attention. It's also been great for bf as she has some time with the baby in the afternoon.

She'll cope, but will I ?

Your dd will probably be fine, many children regress around babies or when they get a new sibling, it's totally normal. We are expecting dc2 in September when dd will have just turned 5 and will be starting Y1. Our tactic is to get her as independent as possible so that hopefully she won't regress as far.

I wouldn't wait. Good luck

"She'll cope, but will I ?"

LOL, I feel the same....

Good point, It would be harder if she was at home with me.
She does go to a fantastic nursery, which she loves. I think It'll be hard for her to leave and go to another school. She is one of 10 in a class to 2 teachers, so I think it might come as a bit of a shock.

Tiger feet- My daughter will be nearly 5 when she starts reception and your daughter will be going in to year 1 when she's 5.
Does that mean my daughter will be a year behind? Not sure how they work it out.

TigerFeet probably has a summerbaby like mine.

DD is a July baby so will be 5.2 in September. Round here tehy only do one intake, in September, so she started Reception at 4.2. Too early imo, I'd rather have waited a few months, but we had no choice. I'm pleased that this baby will (fingers crossed) be a September baby as he/she will be almost 5 when he/she starts school... although dh has gasped at the cost of almost an extra year at nursery

I think there is never a time to have a baby if you think about it too much. Money, some event or something going on. I think sometimes you just have to go for it. Im sure your daughter will love telling everyone at school about the new baby. Best of luck

My daughter is very tall for her age and I see little reception children on there way to school and my daughter looks older than them and she dosn't start for another year!
If her birthday was two days before, she'd be in the september intake.

We recieve a bit of nursery funding, but it's not that much. When you add all the extras and she'll be full time in september for 1 term, it will be hard but it's worth every penny.