Help - need to get baby to fall asleep by himself

[MomToTheoAndFabio]

Hi,

I have a little boy who is 3 months old. He has been rocked to sleep since birth, only because he had colic and now reflux and this was the only way to get him to fall asleep.

I now want to get him to fall asleep by himself, but don't have it in me to do the sleep training myself. I have a toddler of 15 months and having him hang onto my leg, while trying to soothe a baby, is quite impossible.

Does anyone know of a service / company / people who come in and do the hard work for you?

Thanks

oh you poor thing i wish i did know the name of a company who could do it for you. Could you try maybe settling him in a moses basket in a corner of the living room so that he knows you are near but is not being held. I tried this for my DS1 when trying to get him to sleep on his own after my mother took over his nighttime routine when i was very unwell after his birth and rocked him to sleep. I'm not saying its a miracle worker but i think just having him in the same room but not actually holding him gets them used to dropping off by themselves with the everyday 'nightime noises' of the house going on around him. it did work for my DS1 but not overnight. it also makes the eventual transition to cot at night easier too.

My dd was held constantly day and night till she was 6 weeks. From one day to the next she was just put down in her moses basket aT 7PM and baring feeds, did sleep on her own. No idea why, dh just put her down one day and we didn´t look back! So just goes to show you this may not be as bad as you think..

Have you tried one of those battery operated rocking chairs? Can you get a moses basket that also moves for some time after initial push, or similar?

Hsrd isn´t it?! Good luck, try whatever you think best!

where are you?

if in london i can recommend a very good post natel doula who will totally help!

Have you maybe tried swaddling and white noise or wave sounds on loop (is like having someone cuddle them and shush them over and over)? We did that with DS1 who liked to be cuddled down and it helped us.

I think what you want is a night nanny - there are agencies which provide these but they're really expensive.

Some friends used the Millpond clinic to help with baby sleep problems (a CC type approach). We used Naturally nurturing (not a CC type approach) to help us with DS1's sleep problems.

Good luck and I hope it gets sorted out soon for the sake of your sanity.