Anyone else not really want to move their child into their own room?

[LaTrucha]

DD is now 14 months and has always slept with her cot next to our beds.

We had talked about moving her as we're TTC no.2 but we don't really want to. We like having her there.

We are the ONLY couple I know or have heard tell of who feel like this. Is there anyone else out there, or are we deeply weird?

BTW, we do the TTCing on the put me up downstairs!

dd did not move until she turned 3 never bothered us and the transition was smooth

we just never got around to sorting out her room

I do use 'her' room for the ironing. It's very handy!

(but that isn't our motive... it's just nice having her there)

Our ds was in our room untill he was nearly 2 partly because we moved house when he was quite small and somehow it took a while to sort out the 2nd bedroom.

We first moved him to the foot of the bed rather than beside us. I think the impetus really was that he had started to play a lot more independently and I got around to liking the idea of doing up a room for him with all his toys.

So no, you're not the only person ever to have done it . But they do grow up...and anyway when she's old enough to get out of bed and walk to your room I'm sure sh'll be continuing to join you!

dd's room was used as an office and we did like having her there, since she moved dd refuses to come to our room, would be so much easier when she is poorly but hey big girl and all that
we do get the odd weekend cuddle

liked having her with us that is not in the office

We are the only people who seem to openly say we just have DS to sleep with us in our bed. Sometimes if I say it my friends say they do this too but no one seems to think it's a good idea for some reason. He is only 7 months so I know it's early but when he isn't in our bed he's in his own which like your DD's cot, is next to our bed. He seems too little to be in a big room on his own!

Phew! Glad I'm not the only one.

Of course I remember you bluebump! We are enjoying Cartagena - although the children's clothes are hilarious! They all look like they're going to a 1950s wedding. See profile for proof!

Oh your DD is so cute! I love the Spanishified pram, we were commenting on those when we were there. We always say we'll buy our DS some Spanish clothes but always end up in C&A instead!

I totally know how you feel - my DD was in our room until very recently (she is younger than yours, but i could have kept her in our room for ever!). When we go to stay with my parents and she shares our room i really look forward to it. There is something just lovely about seeing her first thing in the morning.

DD was in our room until she was nearly 3. She was in a toddler bed by that time, the room's big enough for her to have her own corner. "Her" room was DH's study so that was the main motivation but we liked her with us.

Now DS is still with us at 10mo and we are desperate to get our own room back - so they will be sharing a room v soon.

Your dd is very cute btw! I love the wee Spanish coat.

Sorry for invoking cod - but I do miss her on threads like this going "fgs get them OUT"

Our DS is still in our room. He's 2.5. He sleeps in cot and comes into our bed too. He plays in his room in the day though

Ds is 4.7 and still in our room, dd is 13 mo and sleeps in our bed, it is very cosy .

I love having them both so close, I have said that as soon as ds requests his own room, he can have one, (and we have asked him) until then, thank god we have a big room! dd's cot is in their too, although she has never slept in it, it's just used for storing laundry and teddies.

ds is 14 months and we've nearly finished decorating his room. I expect he'll move in the next couple of weeks. He'd have stayed in with us longer if he slept better. As it is I have to be incredibly quiet and I still frequently wake him when I go to bed

When he moves out it'll be the first time DH and me have had a room to ourselves properly since dd3 was born and she's now 4. She only moved out 3 days before my due date with ds!

I'll do the honours then...FGS,get them out!

How can you have a decent sex life on a zedbed, woman?!

Ah thanks BoF

I enjoyed that

are we only allowed to have sex in bed at bedtime?

Ah, you got me there

We still have dd in cot next to our bed at 19 months. We lived in a 2 bed flat and it is really handy to have the other room for people to stay over but it is also so lovely to see her first thing in the morning. Nice to hear others doing the same - I don't know of anyone else who does.

We only started moving our DS1 out at 14 months and even then we were still in with him much of the time. My nearly three year old DS2 spends most of most nights in our bed, after a token "going to sleep" in his own bed . He's very cuddly and I miss him the nights he sleeps through. They aren't very common though.

Our DS1 is 3.5 and sleeps in our bed still - DS2 sleeps in a cot at the bottom of our bed - thank goodness someone else does it !!!

Moved DS into his own room at 7 mths under duress. DH said he thought we were all keeping each other awake with snores and grunts etc. I would've liked to keep him in longer, really. DD is 4 mths old and this time I win , as we've agreed that she'll only go into her own room when I feel happy about it. It helps that she sleeps through . I love having her in her cot beside my head, so I can hear every little murmur and know she is safe. She seems more fragile than DS in a way, and I don't like to be parted from her at night

I must be a terrible mother...mine were in their own rooms within weeks because they kept me awake and I rapidly concluded that I was a nicer mummy when I wasn't about to explode with irritability because I was knackered!

LaTrucha, we moved DD's cot BACK into our room when she was 14 months!

She had started to hate it when I put her in her cot at night, so we put her on a cot mattress in our room and there was instant improvement (she did want me to sleep on the floor next to her, though). Best step 'backwards' I ever made.

About a month later we put her into the cot again, but kept it in our room because a) we didn't want to mess with what was working and b) we liked having her there. She moved back into her room into a toddler bed at 22 months with no trouble whatsoever.

I remember having an emotional moment when DD was almost 6 months because she would 'have to' move out soon. I got all sorts of flak from my mother and my sister as to how she was growing up and I had to get used to it, blah blah. Bizarre of them to be making me feel like that - she was only 6 months old!

Thanks for all your replies. We are not alone! DH was telling me the other day that he thinks there's enough room for a moses basket... Not actually sure if DD would take to newborn sleeping patterns!

Vesela - yeah, I felt that kind of embarrasment too. TBH, DH and I have agreed that we would knock down the wall and have one big bedroom as a matter of choice, but I don't think we would go that far.

MrsMattie - We kept her in our room at first because she doesn't sleep. It's so much easier not having to traipse into another room. I can just stick my hand in the cot, she fusses it a bit and then goes to sleep (on a good day!)

And yes, we have been enjoying different areas of our house. Put me in my bed and I go to sleep and the shake of a puppy dog's tail (or whatever happens to spring in to your mind there). Of and Bitof Fun - the 'z-bed' has a sprung matress!

The only thing I miss really is reading in bed. And the only reason we might move her is because DH snores like a cow. Sure as hell keeps me awake.

Maybe I'll move him...