have just lost my rage BIG time with my 19 month old...

[bumbly]

all i do since been born is try best i can

food clothes health sleep everything has been hard for me but i keep plugging away

then today he wakes up early again! and wont go back to sleep

so am angry form start

today keeps pouring water over himself when dirnking/eating and then picked him up and screamed very loudly at him and said it was last straw and had to leave high chair

told him to go away (cruel I know and he understood)

oh boy did little one cry

and since then been looking at me strangely and behaving oddly

and has gone to nap without a fuss as if scared of me

have i psycholigically ruined him for life?????
think i have

memories strat now dont they?

You haven't ruined him for life.

Be extra loving with him this afternoon and now it has happened once I am sure you will make sure it doesn't happen again.

Of course you're trying your best. I can understand how easy it is to loose it with a little toddler, and especially if you're so frazzled without sleep. Try and calm down while he's sleeping. I doubt you've ruined him for life, but he's bound to be wary of you after shouting. How about doing something nice this afternoon to bring you both out of the heavy mood? I trip to the park?
Just try and remind yourself that sometimes making a mess is ok, esp if it's only water that can be easily mopped up.

Someone might come along with better advice, but don't worry - everyone snaps at some point.

Hello bumbly, haven't seen you around in a while. Listen, I doubt very much that you've scared him for life. Life with a toddler is tough and sleep deprivation, both yours and his, adds to a lack of patience and irratability. It's all give, give, give and sometimes it's hard to see what you get in return.

I imagine most parents have at some point lost the plot with their kids, you haven't physically harmed him, he was probably just shocked, especially if it's not your usual reaction.

I am due my second baby (yesterday) and I can tell you that my poor DD has had to put up with a very tempramental and hormonal mummy for a while now. It's not ideal and boy do I beat myself up about it, but I have shouted at her countless times. I do however think that there is a balance, I always apologise when my behaviour was wrong (as I'd expect her to) and we have lots of love and cuddles and affection. If anger was the only emotion being displayed day in day out then yes, it would be damaging.

I have days where I say to myself that I am not going to shout / say no and give DD my undivided attention. It is hard when she ignores instructions or misbehaves but I feel so much saner at the end of the day when I put her to bed. when you're tired though, it's a real effort. Good luck