The Dses will not come in

[Saltire]

They are out teh front playing with a boy "i'm not going in till 7.30" and next door who lets her children run around till midnights children.
I went out to get them in, they won't Ds1 was standing there saying "no, make me", Ds2 ran off. They know I'm struggling mentally and that I also don't have the pyhsical strength to go after them.
They won't come in all teh kids are laughing at me, I'm here in tears because I really have had enough, I cannot do a thing with them especially DS1 who is wild. What can i do, I am am so upset, I am sick of being spoken to like that by DS1 and ignored by both of them

How old are the kids?

11 and 9

I've had enough, I have locked the door

aw let them play

oh Saltire

Go back out there and tell them they have a choice to either come in now and nothing more be said or to stay out till 7.30pm and suffer the consequences of having all priviledges removed for the next two weeks.

Do they do any chores for you? If not, draw up a rota for them and get them to start doing stuff.

My DS's are 11 and 9, bring the washing down every day, set the evening table, clear the plates and on a weekend and holidays they must make their own beds. They do get pocket money, but if a job is not done then pocket money is reduced.

You have a lot on your plate with DH being away and I think they are old enough to understand this.

Agree with bellavita.
I have ds aged 12 and ds aged 10 and I would threaten the removal of tv and computer/playstation/football club etc if they didn't do as I'd asked.
Then would not allow them to play out the front in the eve in future unless it was earned.
Good luck.

Well, I got them in - after DS1 almost kicked the front door down.
They have had showers (and been scrubbed by me) and have the PJs on and are in bed. Ds1 is wailing that it's not fair, DS2 is wailing that he loves me but I obviously don't love him.
They are grounded all weekend - which believe me in this weather ahs far more of an impact on them, and the PS2 has been removed form their room for a week.
I told them - or rather shouted at them, and if anyone comes on and says"oh shouting doesn't work" well I don't care if it works or not - that I am the adult, not them and that I will not be spoken to like that, I am not some child they have fallen out with int eh playgound, I have bad pain and they need to know that their actions do not help how I feel and that if I go downhill and can't walk (which has happened) then who will look after them.

Ds2's response to this "well I miss dad"! I know he does,andthis has got to be the worst they have ever behaved when DH is away and he's not even been away a month yet.

I have poured myself a vodka and coke. it won't mix well with the extra painkillers, but WTF!.

Thanks have calmed down a bit now. I'm going to go and watch The Bil (sad I know but I do like Smithy) and will be back later.

Sometimes shouting is all you have left.

I hope you feel better soon.

Ignore the wailing Saltire and enjoy your drink and Smithy!

Tomorrow when they are at school, draw up a rota for them and when they come home sit down with them and say that things are going to have to change if you all want to be happier and stick the rota up on the door where they can see it. Tell them it is your way or no way from now on and say there is room for a little give and take on the basis that they help.

Fwiw - I shout at times and I can be as snappy as a blardy crocodile

Ah, well done!

Just wondered if you make your sons go to sleep at 7.30, or just in bed by then?

Ds1 and 2 (who are 1yr older than yours) have to be in bed by 7.30 but can read/write/draw til 8.30 on a school night and 9pm on w/e.
Maybe this could be a reward for good behaviour?