Congratulations needed please!

[OrmIrian]

I am a terrible handholder and fusser when my DC are upset about school. I tend to sympathise too much and try to make things better when in fact it just validates their worry. DS'1 is at secondary now and I've been heart in mouth about loads of things so far and DH has had to tell me to back off. But this morning DS#1 lost his school planner (it's at school without a doubt) and was flapping and in tears. I said (without any trembling of hte lip) 'Don't make such a fuss DS. It'll be at school. And being late won't make things any better'. And shooed him out of the house!

Then had a little panic to the cat.

Well done! Is he in year 7? I found that the most traumatic of all years.

great stuff!

you sound like me!

Yes, yr 7 irises.

Is that therapy with a cat, or therapy for a cat? if the latter I can assure you that my cat is the most balanced person I know

Therapy for - in the long term, if said cat has to absorb all the 'fussing' which you suceed in not directing at the DC.

(and if your cat is as unbalanced as mine then I would be worried about the people you know, IIWY)

OrmIrian

Congrats

There's hope for me yet

Ds is only 13 months though

cor, well done!

it's so hard when they're in a panic and upset like that.

i tied myself in knots when ds1 started yr 7 back in september, constantly worrying about/for him, i must have really pissed him off!

he recently lost his pencil case and planner, and i told him it was his responsibility and he would have to sort it out, which he did, no probs.
he even plodded off into town to buy a new pencil case with his pocket money.

Thanks everyone.

I am going to resist the temptation to ring home at 4pm to see if it was all OK....

Ha! I didn't need to ring. DS rang me. He found it in his tutor group room. What a surprise...