Toilet training regression... please help.

[mankymummy]

aggghh... DS has just had yet another "accident". He is 3 and 8 months and been in pants for about 5 months.

It started with the odd accident at nursery and now has progressed to 80% of the time he wees or poos in his pants.

I've tried talking to him, saying he would lose toys, saying about school (he starts in sept) and how big boys dont poo their pants, praising him ridiculously when he gets it in the loo.

All to no avail...

What do I do? Put him back in nappies? Persevere? its been going on for about a month now, getting worse.

Anyone had similar and their DCs suddenly "got" it again?

Im at my wits end, poor nursery staff having to deal with endless clothes changes etc.

sorry for double posting but posted in parenting accidentally first.

DD has never been fully trained but has recently had a regressionhere is my threadthere are some good tips on it

I am watching this thread with interest my DD 3 yrs 6 months has just started wetting once a day at random time for no reason after being dry since this time last year I am so frustrated amnd want to know the best way to handle it

I am so glad I've found this thread! My DD has just turned 4 and is in the midst of a regression.
I started training her from about 2 and a half but she tends to wet herself as some kind of attention seeking behaviour and it is driving me mad.
I had a terrible time training her to begin with but she's been fine for about a year but it's started again, wet knickers from playgroup, wetting herself at home etc...can't believe we're going through this again! I've tried just about everything so any new tips would be gratefully recieved! But at the very least it's nice to know other people are in the same boat, makes me feel like less of a failure

Hi
Just joined and read your thread with great interest. Don't know all the abbreviations (DD etc), but our son has been training for 6 months and is just coming up to age 3. We started because he kept stripping off everything to get his nappy off whenever he had a pee, and protested loudly at having a nappy on. After two weeks he "cracked" it getting every single pee in the potty. Since then, for the last 5 months we've gone back to about 50/50 hit/miss, with the odd day of more hits, particularly when there is some "novelty" factor involved (Granny/Grandad, new stickers, out and about etc). It is frustrating, however we just try not to focus on the "hit counter" and look at the overall picture, which is still one of steady improvement:

• potty is now in the bathroom rather than in living room
• he takes himself to the potty in the bathroom some of the time
• he takes his own wet things off after an accident
• he puts his own dry things on after an accident
• he has done a couple of poos on the potty
• remains pretty happy throughout and is great at doing pees in new places when we are out and about.

We've kept everything pretty consistent throughout, and just try to accept we're in for the long haul on this one. Don't know if this helps, but just wanted to let others know there are plenty of us out here who are reaching deep to find new levels of patience!

I have a nurseru nurse attached to Dr's coming up this afternoon to adress the same problem with DD, will pass on any hints or tips etc if you want.

would love to hear what they have to say FiveGoMadInDorset. I've left a message with my health visitor as well so will probably have the same visit soon

Might be worth ruling out an UTI first, for those whose DC have been reliably dry for a while

Significant changes can trigger regression - a new sibling, moving house, starting nursery

IME when above things have been ruled out best approach is to ignore accidents, and not make a fuss about them... reward charts/stickers didn't work for me (esp with a 'wilfull' child for whom toiletting becomes a battle)

Right this is what she said.

Rule out a UTI

Have a fixed time for drinks during the day (esp if they are at nursery and have fixed time there) and then after 20 minutes start asking if they wnat to have a wee.

She also gave DD a reward sticker chart but to be honest I am not to sure that one will work.

If they have a favourite book take that with them and read on the potty/toilet.

If they use a toilet then make sure that their feet are resting on something as that relaxes the bladder and will make sure that it is emptied.

And if all else fails, take their pants away and put back in nappies, explain why and use peer pressure.

Must admit I've tried most of them, but I might try the 'back in to nappies' scare tactic. I've threatened before but never gone through with it. Worth a try! Good luck all....

help, please my daughter and husband are at their wits end , their gorgeous little boy aged 3yrs 6 months has suddenly gone back to wetting his trousers almost daily, he is also cross quite often and has had problems with sleep over the last few weeks,praising ,scolding nothing seems to work, due to start school in sept is worrying, could the 1yr old baby brother have anything to do with this although big brother is very loving and kind,any advise would be appreciated .

many thanks

holpol