nighttime dryness - back to nappies? please say no!

[janek]

hello, my dd (2.10) recently stopped wearing nappies at night, having been dry in the day since august (2.4). she was doing really well, and i had just started to become blase about it when she started weeing in the morning.

i don't call it 'wetting the bed' because she is only 2, and she is pretty much awake for the day after she has done it. i don't believe she is doing it to be naughty (although she can be quite subversive, and often fools me into thinking she is not naughty/didn't know any better when she is/does).

the only thing that has changed is dd2 has started waking at 5ish, and crying, so is poss disturbing dd1 who then wees before she is awake properly. possibly.

i don't want to put her back into nappies because i made a big deal of how proud i was of her being such a big, clever girl and because i don't believe the problem was initially her fault, even if it is now...

i would really like some advice on how to handle it - i don't want to give her a complex. i always say it doesn't matter, but i don't want her to think it doesn't matter so much that it's acceptable.

any comments welcome. tia.

I've been through exact same thing. Main thing is to realise it probably isn't her fault. dd finally stopped having accidents at night aged 8!! I'd just change her and bed without talking or speaking (but not in an i'm annoyed way iykwim). That way IF its for attention then she'll learn its not worth it as she's getting nothing from it. You'll prob find its just a stage she's going through.

thanks. i really don't think it's her fault, cos she was just as proud as i was that she was dry. i suggested to her this morning that she might like to wear a nappy again and she said yes, a little sadly. so i think we'll try it for a while (hopefully only a week or so) and the next time it's dry take the nappy off the following night. seems a shame, but i don't think she's going to learn by constantly making the same 'mistake'. better to take the pressure off, i've decided. i don't expect her to be dry every night, but she's been wet the last 6 nights. we aren't being cross with her. i know full well that if this is a battle it's one we can't possibly win, because weeing and pooing are the only things in the world she really has total control of, and i imagine she has an inkling of this too...

thanks for your advice. x.