Has anyone disciplined their child for wetting their pants??!!

[kitpuss]

I started potty training my DS last May when he was two and a half. He is mostly OK but lately has been wetting himself while watching the TV because he doesn't want to miss anything by going to the toilet.
He is perfectly capable of going upstairs and doing the whole business by himself, and I am just getting really angry with him, he is just being lazy.
I'm really tempted to start putting him on the naughty step when he wets himself in that situation, but am not sure if disciplining him rather than rewarding him will work.
We're currently using a star chart for wees and poos at playschool, which he has found more difficult than at home, but I don't really want to use it for home as well because I know he is just being deliberately lazy at home.
Has anyone else used discipline rather than rewards and did it work?

I don't know if I'm being a bit mad, but why would you want to discipline your ds? I would have thought this was the worst area to introduce discipline to, rather than go with the (literal) flow?

We've found ds not wearing trousers or pants beneficial at home - he strips down when he gsts back from nursery and he likes it. He finds it much easier at home to be pantsless.

I wouldn't discipline per se, but how about asking him to go to the toilet before the TV goes on?

No, I would never discipline of wetting.

I would go with the star chart or similar and rewards when he gets it right. Continue with the good practise that you are using at playschool.

Hmmm - not sure disciplining is the answer. Baby GB is 2.8 and has been going through a forgetful phase recently, so lots of wet clothes etc. Haven't thought of disciplining as it won't work for him, he just won't understand at the moment.

Admittedly though on Saturday I did shout at him after the fourth accident And made a concerted effort to take him to the toilet myself more often. Could you do this with your son? If you told him to use the toilet in the break between programmes would he go?

No way, not a good idea imo. It could set up issues around it. My 5 year old dd still has the occasional accident and I would not discipline her either fwiw.

no, i would not discipline for it.
am not a fan of rewards charts and all that either, but it's preferable to disciplining.

I would be teaching him the natural consequences of his actions.
so, if he wets when watching tv then it gets turned off, and it stays off until he has helped you get clean clothes out, got himself changed and helped clean up the wee.

he'll soon get bored of it

i tell dd off, i wouldnt put her on the naughty step but i tell her im not happy

her issue is leaving it till the last possible second to go despite being asked and a few drops coming out

she doesnt do it often and doesnt seem to bothered so def not very upset by it, seems effective to me

I've tried making him put his wet clothes in the washing machine and getting himself dressed in dry clothes afterwards, but he seems to actively like this, I think it makes him feel grown up!!
I think it just seems to have been dragging on for such a long time now, and I know that he can do it, he is just making the choice not to go to the toilet when he knows he needs a wee. That is the really frustrating thing. (Just to be clear, I was only talking about disciplining him when he wets himself when he's watching the TV and I've asked him countless times if he needs a wee. Other times which are genuine accidents I don't mind about)
I guess I'm just a little unsure why these days people discipline children about all other kinds of issues, but when they are being deliberately naughty about potty training it is not considered the right thing to do to discipline them. Is it just because we're afraid it will cause more accidents? (feel I'm starting to play devil's advocate here!)

Well, a consequence, as thisisyesterday says, is that the TV just goes off, maybe, as soon as he wets himself - warn him ahead of time, and then just do it, with no fuss. I reckon he'd get the message before too long.

take him to the loo kitpuss, no asking. do it very often - every half hour? hopefully he will quickly get fed up and do it himself and will stop wetting himself too because he'll have already been.

also take him to gp just to make sure there isn't a reason, it would be dreadful if he really can't help it and you are getting cross with him.

Similar timescales here. I just think it takes some kids longer than others to get full control of their bladders, and physiologically there are changes - volume of urine etc. Personally I think that disciplining might make your DS get stressed about something that you really want to keep stress free. Also, it might give him the message that it is a wonderful way to wind mummy up - if he's a clever chap he might decide to put this into action to get a reaction!

My DS has weeks and months where he gets through 4 or 5 pairs of trousers a day, and then weeks and months when he is relatively accident-free. Like your LO he tends to get wrapped up in TV programmes or play, but accidents also happen more frequently when he is feeling under the weather or a bit tired. It can be frustrating, but at the end of the day, he's doing well in other areas of development, so I don't let it bother me. It is only water, and I take a few preventative measures if I think he hasn't been to the loo recently enough/has drunk pints of water that day (e.g. a fleecy blanket under him on the sofa, an old cloth nappy under his bum in the carseat).

HTH.

I agree with Habbibu - DD was like this and I just told her that if she wet herself because she couldn't be bothered to move from the telly, telly would go off for the rest of the day - I think the telly only went off twice. My friend's ds was even worse - he would poo himself because he couldn't be bothered to move from the telly - I think she just ended up shouting alot.

I think you need to do what you feel is right - you know your child, how they will react and whether it is just laziness. It could be worse all round if you didn't say anything but just got more and more fed up and ended up shouting at them for something trivial because you were wound up by cleaning up more wee due to sheer laziness on your child's part. Trust yourself as a parent.

Good luck
xx

I turn the tv off if DD1 wets her self whilst watching it. She knows this will happen. The same applies for using the computer. She has been really bad at hanging on till the last moment and wetting herself but is getting better now. I also make her go upstairs to change into dry clothes herself which takes her away from the thing she was doing that she didn't want to miss. She is starting to get it that it is quicker just to go than have to go and get changed it you wet yourself. She is now 4 and has been dry since 2.6 so it is just lazyness on her part.