Think DP is experiencing this differently from me...

[plantsitter]

DD (first baby) will be 4 weeks old on Thursday.

DP is now talking about the next baby and when we should start trying for him/her.

I am flabbergasted. Is it just me who is in knackered, sleep-deprived, emotional topsy turvy turmoil? What can he be thinking?

DD is cute, but I'm in two minds about having any more kids at ALL after the last 2 weeks!!

well, he is going to be seeing differently as he has not just made, carried and birthed a baby.. your bits will still be recovering !

i don;t think it can hurt to have a conversation, does not mean you have to start trying immediately.

the first few weeks with a newborn are a whirl of feeding, changing, burping, more feeding, lack of sleep, and trying to get to know this baby.

i don;t think you should decide either way right now, but do talk.

Tell him if he wants to potentially ruin your health then yes get pregnant straight away - a body needs time to recover from being pregnant!
Has he being doing the late nights too?
Is it a ploy for sex?

Hadn't considered it might be a ploy for sex. If it is it is not very well thought out!

Lulumama you're right. I didn't really respond except in an open-mouthed horror type way. I probably do want more kids ever really, it's just that right now this is really the FURTHEST thing from my mind!

are you breastfeeding? if so, you probably won;t have a period for a few months yet

even if you are, make sure you have got contraception sorted or DH might well get his way sooner rather than later

also, it is a positive thing, that he is loving fatherhood and is looking forward to more children

Wow! You lucky girl. Make sure he does his share of dirty nappies,getting up in the night etc.... AND don't comment on the way he puts a nappy on or burps the kid unless it's harmful. Take lots of naps when his around. Tell him your pelvic floor needs very special exercises that you can't do at home and you need to go out for two hours to classes (between feeds) Go out and enjoy just don't bump into him in the coffee shop he nips in for a coffee with the baby. Milk it girl (in more ways than one)

Yeah, I know it's positive and he is really and truly fabulous with DD. I suppose I feel a bit like I must be a bit rubbish if he's enjoying things so much and I am, frankly, not really.

I had forgotten about the whole physical recovery (i.e. that he doesn't have to do it, not that I have to!)

Starbear

I was a bit of a madwoman at first cleaning the house and going out for long walks and just trying to be normal. Then my sister told me that if I didn't lie down my under carriage would fall out (the doctor said the same in a more medical way) It's not an illness but you do need to let others take care of you. What better than a happy Dad

ask him how he feels about it in a few weeks' time

and congratulations. i felt exactly the same btw - love DS to bits and have always wanted more than one, but for many weeks i found myself completely unable to imagine ever going through all that work ever again.

scarily, i could imagine it now (DS is 6 months)

Plantsitter, don't know if you saw the thread on this board about not enjoying your first baby straight away?

It's a bit off your original topic, but just wanted to say it's worth having a look at and please don't feel rubbish - you're completely normal.

And FWIW I love my DS more than anything in the world, and I know I want another one at some point - but he's 19 months and I still don't know what that point is!